Comments | joyfulfeather: Betrayal [LJ Idol, week 13]

joyfulfeather

Betrayal [LJ Idol, week 13]

Jun 29, 2014 21:50

Her name was Marie. We met the first day of sixth grade and almost instantly became best friends. We did all the things preteen best friends do - passing notes in class, sleeping over at each others' houses on the weekends, giggling and laughing and carrying on whenever we were together. I was always a shy kid, never good at making friends. I'd ( Read more... )

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ecosopher June 30 2014, 03:05:05 UTC

Even though I know people come through this kind of thing, I still worry so much that my own children will have this kind of rejection. Ugh. I'm so sorry. But I'm glad there were other people there for you. You also raise an interesting question about forgiveness and the layers people choose to show (or hide).

joyfulfeather June 30 2014, 03:59:02 UTC

It's got to be hard to be a parent and see this kind of thing happen. It's part of growing up, but man, it really does suck.

Forgiveness is one of those odd things I have trouble pinning down in my head. When you forgive someone for something, it doesn't mean that thing didn't happen or that you don't still feel bad about it. I forgave Marie, but I didn't fully trust her anymore; is that still forgiveness?

kehlen June 30 2014, 12:17:29 UTC

I think it is, because you tried to get past what happened between you.

And I have to say, this rejection out of complete blue and for no reason that concerned the two of you is one of the weirdest things I've heard about. O.o I am sorry you had to go through it. :(

kickthehobbit July 1 2014, 04:34:13 UTC

:(

Growing up is hard. I'm sorry you experienced that, but this is a good piece.

bleodswean July 1 2014, 15:31:11 UTC

Ugh. I oftentimes wonder how universal an experience this is. Because yes.

kagomeshuko July 1 2014, 19:42:41 UTC

I hate how people do that type of thing. I'm going through something similar at the moment with somebody. It sucks big time.

karmasoup July 2 2014, 00:31:01 UTC

Wow, that's so crazy! When I was that age, the group of gals I hung out with used to randomly pick on one member of the group to decide for no real reason that they didn't like, and wouldn't be nice to for a while, and then it would all be better after a while, and the whole group would go back to normal like they were all friends, until they randomly set their sights on someone other unsuspecting victim. I never really understood that. They never did it to me, and I was the only one they didn't have an issue with talking to the other gals when they were on the "outs." Somehow everyone always just understood and accepted that I was the go-between, the mediator, and I was off limits. But, the only member of that group I'm still friends with, the only one I remain in contact with, the only one I care anything about to this day, is the only other one who also didn't participate in that whole "unfriending" process. (And to think, that was before FB, even.) As I got older, I figured out it was probably just the stupidity of young ( ... )