If you have or had parents who love you count your blessings

[judyp]

I was away for two days and dreading calling my mother but she called me. There was no how are you or how was your trip. There was how long were you gone? It seems longer than 2 days. Then she went into the complaint of the week. There's a light on at the apartment downstairs and it was never on before so it's probably on her meter and that's

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[artisticalias]

There should be a family counselling service near you. They are really helpful people and personally, I'm all for support wherever you can get it.

Of course, you always have an ear here. :o)

((((((((((judy))))))))))

[ffortsa]

Oh boy. I am sorry to hear about this, and agree a good counsellor would be a help to you. Sometimes a social work agency has a referral system to a psychiatric social worker, family therapist, or other psychologist who does therapy. Maybe even a group of people who are in the same position of caregiver that you are in. You definitely need support and perhaps some tools to help you cope with your mother.

I have been blessed with parents who cared for me - my mother is still with us, although she is getting somewhat difficult to deal with, but not in the uncaring way your mother exhibits. It's enough of a strain to have a parent who needs your 'parental' attention, without the lack of gratitude and caring you report.

Unfortunately, I do know of cases where mothers or fathers are like this. It must be very hard to separate your own feelings of self-worth from the rotten way you are being treated. I hope you find a good therapist who can help you out.