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[justpopthehood]

Nobody's perfect. Making mistakes is practically encoded in most of our DNA, it just happens, right? Some mistakes are bigger than others. A lot bigger. Sometimes they affect the people around you just as much as they affect you

Comments

[playstheblues]

Oh, well.

Not very, I guess.

[justpopthehood]

Yeah. It's kind of messed up.

[playstheblues]

Really messed up.

I suppose.

[justpopthehood]

You don't sound so sure.

[wolfspecialist]

It's not unconditional if there are conditions. That's sort of the point.

[justpopthehood]

But everyone has their own standards for those conditions.

[wolfspecialist]

Sure. Everyone's different.

[justpopthehood]

So my capacity to love unconditionally wouldn't be the same as yours. And so the whole thing gets iffy.

[primrosella]

I think...

...It wouldn't be easy to forgive them. But as you said, people make mistakes, and if it's someone you love...then I think you ought to at least try. It's not as though the mistake can be taken back, can it?

[justpopthehood]

It's really easy. That's what I'm afra --

It's weird when it's someone you love. You can't see clearly with them and so...I don't know. What if you're only forgiving them because you're deceiving yourself?

[primrosella]

Deceiving yourself? What do you mean by that?

[justpopthehood]

Don't you ever wonder if your love for another person can cloud your judgment?

[songofdreams]

I'm in that situation myself...

I don't think I can change the way I feel about that person... but unless I know what "mistake" he did in the future he knows of... I guess I can't say for sure.

But asking me that now, then I don't think there's anything he can do that will make me stop loving him.

[justpopthehood]

The person I'm talking about isn't gonna make a mistake. He made it already and he made it his whole life.

[songofdreams]

It would depend... Being human, like you said, I guess some things are unforgivable. And that would also differ from person to person.

I guess the question now is if you can accept his faults.

[justpopthehood]

The question that's nagging me is actually 'should I?'

[threeatonce]

Loving someone unconditionally doesn't mean being unable to forgive them, and it doesn't mean that you can forgive them, and it's not something that you can angle forgiveness up against. It depends on the degree of mistake.

[justpopthehood]

It was a big mistake.

[threeatonce]

Everyone makes them.

[justpopthehood]

They don't always get other people arrested.