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[justpopthehood]

Nobody's perfect. Making mistakes is practically encoded in most of our DNA, it just happens, right? Some mistakes are bigger than others. A lot bigger. Sometimes they affect the people around you just as much as they affect you

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[ioncewascool]

Love and forgiveness are two entirely different things in my experience. That's what makes divorce so hard.

[justpopthehood]

What do you call it when a child divorces their parents?

[ioncewascool]

Legally I think it's called declaring your independence. Speaking as a father...it's unimaginably painful.

[Filtered]

I thought your parents weren't here. Did something happen?

[justpopthehood]

Unless the state declares it for you. But it's still painful.

filtered;

Um.

If I were home right now, my dad would be coming up for parole really soon.

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[not_so_smooth]

You are seriously freaking me out with those questions.

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[not_so_smooth]

I think it's, you know, unconditional. But I don't think unconditional love means you always forgive the other person. Like, my parents will always love me no matter what, but there were times when they were pretty pissed at what I was doing and had to punish me.

I think unconditional love just means that you go, "You know what, no matter what happens, good or bad, I'm going to love you. How I act on that love might change, but it's always there."

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[justpopthehood]

This isn't so much getting grounded by your parents as it is watching you dad get arrested and then getting arrested yourself and not seeing him for years. I don't know how I feel about him anymore. I don't know if I forgive him, if I even should.

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[not_so_smooth]

Oh.

I think you can forgive someone and still not trust them. Like, you can forgive him for being a shitty dad and screwing up parts of your life... but not trust him to take you out to cruise along the streets, you know?

And all that he did to you? You turned out pretty amazing in spite of it.

[harrysbackup]

Not all love is unconditional.

[justpopthehood]

I loved my very first Chia pet unconditionally.

[harrysbackup]

The eskimos have over 200 words for snow. The Greeks have as many for love, so what kind of love are you talking about?

[justpopthehood]

Not the kind that eskimos feel for now, that's for sure.