I have 2 kids and I don't know what a theme for a baby is.
My guess is that they mean the nursery and everything that comes with it. Nowadays with registries, new mothers get everything coordinated, because they get all of that stuff at the baby shower before the baby is born, so they would pick a Disney theme or a princess theme or a GI Joe theme, but unless you're doing a baby shower with a registry, I wouldn't worry too much.
We have registered for a bunch of things, but I've been thinking of it mostly as a reminder list to copilot of all of the stuff we need to acquire to make sure we can bathe/feed/change/clothe her. And, yeah, it would be cool if some of it could match, but I don't really see that happening.
One suggestion I'd make for the nursery is to stay away from pastels and gentle colors. We ended up doing it red and white with stickers of 101 Dalmatians. Sabrina loved to stay in her crib and look at them, and she'd fall asleep staring at them. Newborns can see the bright colors and contrasts more (or so books say) and I still believe that it helped with both my daughters sleeping like angels, which is a lot more important than matching stuff (and I still don't know why the comforter needs to match the diaper bag, but whatever LOL)
That's a really helpful suggestion, thank you! I've said "bright colors" to people, mostly because I love color and I figured that brights/patterns tend to be more what they can see at such a young age. We were thinking of doing colored dots on the wall to bring in all of the colors that will probably show up.
I think John Watson is a perfectly reasonable answer.
I've never been asked about having a theme for a baby. I would have no idea how to answer if I was. (Of course, I threatened to name my firstborn "Spackle" if people didn't stop suggesting names to me, so maybe everyone was scared to ask anything else.)
Oh Darling! WHAT IS THIS MADNESS OF THEME-NESS????
Seriously, this must be some new 21st century shit cause I've never heard any of this with any of my kids. And yes, my baby is 14, and the youngest of 3, so by the time he finally came his 'theme' was hand-me-downs, both girl and boy stuff.
O.o
Stop worrying about not knowing how to be a girl. Screw that and everyone that asks you. You are a wonderful person, mom, wife, teacher, Woman, JOHNWATSON/SEAMUSDEAN FANGURL, and more.
As you have said, and others have too, SHE will show you her 'theme'. And that may not happen for another 10 years or so, but, you've got the right state of mind; let her be her own person, and I know she'll be more awesome, and sparkly, and perfect than you or copilot could have ever imagined!
On second thought, I think that maybe "vomiting rainbows" is a good choice.
Thank you. seriously, for all of that. I sometimes need others to help me refocus and just say, "kaalee. chill, girl, CHILL."
I'm so ridiculously excited to find out who she is going to be and what she is going to love and all of the songs I'll get to dance to with her and everything.
Aw, that's not failing. Yeah, they're totally talking about nursery and acoutrements(sp?), but underneath the excited interest that usually accompanies that question, I observe an underlying fear. Fear of the crazy pregnant lady who brutally judges every gift someone gives them. Another version of bridezilla, I guess? So they are damn well going to make sure that they know what the mother has in mind beforehand. What disappoints me most is that they usually expect an answer like Winnie the Pooh or Disney or Noah's Ark. I told everyone Art Nouveau and Maxfield Parrish and had to go on to explain that I was using colors in the nursery that evoked art from the period. NOT SPECIFIC ENOUGH, and doesn't tell them jack about toys and baby clothes.
Basically you cannot win, but don't let it get you down. GOD, can you imagine a Watson themed nursery? Everything comes with a moustache these days (wrong version, I know), and lots of tweed! ^__^
Ahhh, that's an interesting point. I hadn't thought about that. But really, if they think about me, who is really going to think I'm going to judge any sort of gift? Me! My mother made an afghan and my father in law made a wishbone out of copper (with her birthstone) and a woman I work with made me an entire QUILT and all I did was tear up at them and thank them like crazy. It still blows me away that anyone would want to offer my little one a gift.
anyway, thank you. Your thoughts mean a lot. ♥
and, omg, yes, now I'm imagining a Watson themed nursery and I can't stop giggling. ♥ [I was joking with some teacher friends about making a John Watson mobile to hang above her crib. :D]
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My guess is that they mean the nursery and everything that comes with it. Nowadays with registries, new mothers get everything coordinated, because they get all of that stuff at the baby shower before the baby is born, so they would pick a Disney theme or a princess theme or a GI Joe theme, but unless you're doing a baby shower with a registry, I wouldn't worry too much.
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We have registered for a bunch of things, but I've been thinking of it mostly as a reminder list to copilot of all of the stuff we need to acquire to make sure we can bathe/feed/change/clothe her. And, yeah, it would be cool if some of it could match, but I don't really see that happening.
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Your child will be loved and taken care of - what could be more important than that?
*hugs* ♥
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and you're so right. Sometimes I just need other people to listen to me and help me refocus again.
♥ thank you
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So. Much. Yes.
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I've never been asked about having a theme for a baby. I would have no idea how to answer if I was. (Of course, I threatened to name my firstborn "Spackle" if people didn't stop suggesting names to me, so maybe everyone was scared to ask anything else.)
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also: ♥
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Seriously, this must be some new 21st century shit cause I've never heard any of this with any of my kids. And yes, my baby is 14, and the youngest of 3, so by the time he finally came his 'theme' was hand-me-downs, both girl and boy stuff.
O.o
Stop worrying about not knowing how to be a girl. Screw that and everyone that asks you. You are a wonderful person, mom, wife, teacher, Woman, JOHNWATSON/SEAMUSDEAN FANGURL, and more.
As you have said, and others have too, SHE will show you her 'theme'. And that may not happen for another 10 years or so, but, you've got the right state of mind; let her be her own person, and I know she'll be more awesome, and sparkly, and perfect than you or copilot could have ever imagined!
On second thought, I think that maybe "vomiting rainbows" is a good choice.
:D *hugs*
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I'm so ridiculously excited to find out who she is going to be and what she is going to love and all of the songs I'll get to dance to with her and everything.
Okay, vomiting rainbows. Check. ♥
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Basically you cannot win, but don't let it get you down. GOD, can you imagine a Watson themed nursery? Everything comes with a moustache these days (wrong version, I know), and lots of tweed! ^__^
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anyway, thank you. Your thoughts mean a lot. ♥
and, omg, yes, now I'm imagining a Watson themed nursery and I can't stop giggling. ♥ [I was joking with some teacher friends about making a John Watson mobile to hang above her crib. :D]
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