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[karenlea]

 It's probably been the hardest month of my life. The day after I got back from Connecticut, I found out that my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. She has had a whole bunch of tests and seemingly endless doctors appointments. I am trying to hopeful, but in my gut, I know that it isn't good. I went with her to her appointment today and it looks

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[teotakuu]

I cannot tell you not to be upset because of course you are and will continue to be so. We are never ready for our parents to die, no matter our age. I will suggest that you turn it around and be grateful that you know that your time will be less rather than more and make the most of it.

It is important to your mother to discuss things with you. Disposing of her assets and talking about her funeral etc are amongst the few things that she has some control over now and she needs to do this with you, if at all possible. It won't be easy but even crying together will be better for you both than crying seperately.

Strenthening and healing vibes on the way for you both.

[karenlea]

Thank you for the encouragement,. You are right about crying together, it's good to get the emotions out.

[karenlea]

Thank You James.

On a totally unrelated side note...today we got a flyer in the mail for something called "The Great Urban Race." Have you heard of it? Very similar to Urban Challenge or Urban Dare. We got excited and went to the website, only to find out the the 2007 Los Angeles race is tomorrow! Grrr...

Huggs to You

[rangermom]

My father died of lung cancer, back in 1968. When they first found the cancer he was told he had 6 months to live, he lived 6 years. It depends greatly on attitude I really believe! Mom told me about going through the same thing you are doing, being told where things are, signing papers, etc. She also was in constant tears, how can you not be? Both you and your mom are 'normal' folks doing the best you can to cope. Don't be hard on either of you, and don't give up hope.
--Di

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[karenlea]

I completely agree with you about having the right attitude. My father-in-law's wife has had "terminal" cancer for as long as I have known her, about six years now. She is bad off, but still here. You just never know with these things. I am trying to stay positive, but some days are much harder than others.

Thank you for the advice!

[amyleaton]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I lost my dad this year and you know, it's good to know what is going on so that you can take the time to do whatever it is you want to do. I'm not saying this very well. (((((karen and mom))))) thinking of you

[karenlea]

You said it well,I know exactly what you mean. It is good to know in advance. We are actually thinking about taking a mother/daughter trip to Vegas, which I had promised to do with her a few years back. Knowing, allows us to try to do the things that we had been putting off. Thank you Amy!