As if being abused wasn't enough, you've got this to deal with...and probably, as you say, to one degree or another for the rest of your life. It's really fucked up & I'm sorry. This is not the way it's supposed to be.
i also think it's an incredibly compelling argument when you liken persistent domestic violence to when god doesn't intervene to physically heal, etc. that has given me a lot to think about in regards to emotional & relational trauma & what we expect of people who have suffered it. thank you.
I just want to say that I love this post on so many levels. I hope people do stop criticizing you for your decision, even if they don't verbalize that criticism.
Aww, hon, I'm so sorry :( I hate how the church treats abuse in general, and divorcees in particular :( It's just screwed up. FWIW, when I heard about things, it never occurred to me to mistrust your word- just surprised me that someone I knew and thought seemed 'nice' from a very, very casual acquaintance could be capable of that. But that's so often the case with abusers, right? Anyway, I'm sorry you're still having to struggle with the fallout, and that you will likely continue to have to struggle with it. I wish I'd known you better then, so you would have had at least one 'conservative' Christian who wasn't being an asshat. But then I'm pretty sure all the conservative Christians think I'm an apostate anyway ;)
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And for the record, I'd say any ONE of those things mentioned warrants a divorce, much less all together.
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