Comments | keme_magnolia: TOO MUCH AM CIV

keme_magnolia

TOO MUCH AM CIV

Mar 02, 2005 00:27

12:30 at night and at least three more hours of studying to go...and I'm updating lj. How productive of me. How do you guys feel about hitting your kids when their bad? Boys, specifically. Also how do you feel about over population? I get weird looks about both these issues. I really wasn't planning on ever spanking my kids, but there were no boys ( Read more... )

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osian March 1 2005, 23:40:22 UTC

Well, i definately disagree with the practice of hitting children. I just dont think anyone could ever convince me of doing that.
and overpopulation, definately a big problem. Especially when the majority of the population is living in poverty.

fountainhead687 March 2 2005, 13:47:36 UTC

good one, I was all geared up to say just that but then I read what you said and I was all, damn ( ... )

osian March 2 2005, 22:39:17 UTC

yeah, i dont think i ever thought about being spanked befor I did anything. I was spanked several times, and hated it, and hated the people who did it. It made me respect them less. It of course made me fear them more, But do we really want to live in a world where people dont do things only out of fear?

beaaat thah cheeldrin vayaequipovaya March 2 2005, 00:58:17 UTC

We've discussed this many times before together, so I doubt I'm adding anything new to your database. I think it is very effective in certain cases, especially with boys, but it really depends on the child (it doesn't work with super-sensitive kids). It is extremely important to NEVER do it when you're angry because a lot of times parents use it as an outlet for their frustration instead of a legitimate punishment for bad behavior. Warn the kids a few times, do it when you say you're going to do it (be consistent), then wait until both you and the kid calm down (this is what my parents did most of the time). There's less anger involved this way. I was a rebellious little punk, and I operated like a boy when it came to discipline, and I know I would have NEVER made it this far if my parents didn't hit me. Some children respond to guilt or usurpation of their priveledges, but not me ( ... )

Re: beaaat thah cheeldrin fountainhead687 March 2 2005, 13:59:02 UTC

wow, thats so different from my veiw on life. I think that there are a lot of children whose souls would have been better off never coming into this world. think about those pictures of children on the "a penny a day" comercials. those poor kids are so sad and weatherbeated and they have seen more life and more death than most americans see in thier entire lives. and most of them live to the age of about 5. God is not providing for them, so why will he start providing for all the these starving, dying people who are as precious as little flowers? I think that if there is a god, he has done all the providing he will, and we have taken advantage of him and he is probably pissed at us by now.
I would agree with Mother Teresa except that already so many lives are lived in misery and cut short. If I had to die to save my brother or sister or parent I would, but I would rather not cause them the pain of ever knowing me.

I'm not sure if I make a whole lot of sense...

vayaequipovaya March 2 2005, 17:20:48 UTC

A main idea about believing in God is that he will provide for us even if it is in ways that we don't necessarily see or in ways that don't quite fit into our human terms. That's what faith is. It is true that children are sick and hungry and dying, but you can't pass it off as proof that God isn't providing. Just because it isn't the way we want or expect it doesn't mean that it doesn't happen. I am aware that it is easy for me to say considering my situation, but hopefully my experience will broaden in the future and I can expand my knowledge on the subject. It's hard to argue, though, if you don't believe in God (I'm not saying you don't - I don't know your opinion but it seems that you at least have a different opinion in Him than me) because basically, all my answers lie in God and faith, and we both know that would take at least 500 LJ entries ( ... )

fountainhead687 March 2 2005, 19:43:46 UTC

I don't beleive in god, you were right. But I do understand what faith, and although I can understand it I still can't beleive in god. I would rather put my faith in something that has proven itself worthy beforehand. So, I don't think that we could ever agree about whether or not god provides for everyone. To me its obvious that he doesnt, but to you I'm just not looking deep enough and I'm being flippant. And thats fine. Really ( ... )

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turquoisepiano March 2 2005, 01:34:14 UTC

I'd have a hard time thinking causing any sort of physical pain to my beautiful children would bring any good. However, I'd say maybe once is all you need for them to learn a lesson. It definitely should not be done on a regular basis ( ... )

missa_1 March 2 2005, 12:03:32 UTC

This really strange to me. Wow, Maggie, you are in a much different place than Davis now ( ... )

vayaequipovaya March 2 2005, 17:35:26 UTC

I would like to clarify two things. Firstly, I actually AM against using the pill, condoms, or any other type of artificial birth control. I am not having premarital sex, but even if I were, I wouldn't use birth control. I do agree that it would be hypocritical of me if I were pro-birth control and argued against denying God's children. Secondly, I also want to clarify that I'm not for women in impoverished countries having 10 children. I am not having children right now, not because I want to prevent souls from coming into being, but because at this time it wouldn't be prudent for me to choose so. Likewise during marriage there are also times when it is unadvisable to procreate. The overwhelming trend, however, is to be exceedingly too generous with the excuses that render pregnancy undesirable ( ... )

missa_1 March 2 2005, 19:05:44 UTC

I'm impressed that you are so consistent and steadfast in your beliefs about birth control ( ... )

fountainhead687 March 2 2005, 20:04:29 UTC

yeah, I agree with you mostly, but there is one little thing...
I think that whether you have a child in America or Africa or Asia or India the child will use resources. Not only that, but the child that you raise takes up your personal resources, leaving no room for maybe an orphan from an impoverished country where the people do not have access to knowlege about birth control or actual birth control. so, I disagree with the idea that having a kid in america is not adding to the overpopulatio problem.

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anonymous March 2 2005, 16:38:13 UTC

Hi -- The place to start would be here ( ... )