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Mar 20, 2013 22:01

I guess I'm an alcoholic, a higher functioning one, I limit my drinking to the evenings, end up feeling buzzed, go to bed, sometimes there's a mild hangover in the mornings, occasionally there's the day of light or no drinking when I'm away or there's company but alcohol is a very regular companion. Why? Hard to say, lack of social company ( Read more... )

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mikosquirrel March 20 2013, 21:24:34 UTC
Aw! I wish there was something I could do to help, other than suggest audiobooks or music for exercising with. Skype me sometime if you're feeling lonely.

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branwyn March 20 2013, 22:24:26 UTC
Hey cat. Way shorter than what I usually write, and I did read it all ( ... )

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mut March 20 2013, 22:56:23 UTC
Hello,

I hear ya. Having good friends -- I mean really good friends, ones that you don't feel you have to keep up appearances for, ones you're always glad to see and vice versa -- makes a huge difference to quality of life. But you're a neat guy and I'm sure you'll get there.

Something I've found works well for me is a weekly RPG. That sets up a regular social event, but one with structure and a common goal and (if done right) increasing depth/interest. An' you get to meet all kinds of interesting people, some of them not even furry. Not everyone's cup of tea but worth a thought.

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kurtmrufa March 21 2013, 00:56:24 UTC
Y'know, I could have written 100% exactly the same thing as this. It's remarkable. Like, a low social set point, the same kind of bad habits, the same 'you have to be careful at what you are good at because you might get paid a lot for doing it and then you're kind of trapped into keeping on doing it' etc.

Over the last couple years I've been more or less successful in replacing the booze with Something Else but that's got a lot of problems of its own - much less physical toxicity, but a lot more if you want legal toxicity.

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kyhwana March 24 2013, 03:03:23 UTC
Hmm, me three.

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banner March 21 2013, 01:53:50 UTC
Take something you always wanted to do as a child, but never did, or barely did.
And go do it. Get involved with it. the other people who do it. rediscover whatever it was about it that pulled you in.

And don't be afraid to quit your job and try something else, yes it can be very hard and very scary. I know.
Don't be afraid to pull up roots and move somewhere else.

And as for being with an other person, all the time, the good relationships take the least amount of work. So look for that person. Also it gets easier with time with the right one.

Good luck.

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