There just comes a point where all you can do is throw up your hands and let your relatives do what they are going to do. I hope B can stop feeling like there is anything he can do or should do about how his parents are behaving.
I think the last conversation with his dad was pretty much the last straw for him. To be told that he understands nothing... way to treat your kid. Bad enough to tell a kid, but a grown adult who is actually trying to assist you? He told me that he finally gets why SiL has already given up on them and why I react towards them like I do.
(A portion of my dislike of them has always been how they treat B, like an afterthought. Having N now, B is finally understanding that feeling based on their indifference about if/when they get to see N.)
It is very sad when parents treat their children badly - worse when the children are adults capable of living their own lives. It's also sad when people finally realise there's really nothing they can do to alleviate their parents' behaviour and the best thing to do is to have as little as possible to do with them.
I'm kinda glad his dad acted like that? Because he's totally pushed B past the (useless) trying stage to the why bother stage. Which I think will ulitmately be MUCH better for B emotionally and practically.
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(A portion of my dislike of them has always been how they treat B, like an afterthought. Having N now, B is finally understanding that feeling based on their indifference about if/when they get to see N.)
I'm really just very sad for both my boys. :(
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