cleaning up the f-list

[kittylefish]

hi, guys.  i'm going to be doing some tidying up of my friends list, and also creating a new filter for when i babble on about personal stuff.  this will involve eliminating people with whom my last interaction was when i friended them back, lol, as well as a few people who i think are no longer active on lj or no longer interested in being my

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[sunnythirty3]

I want to know how one cleans out a F-list. Does one use a F-lacuum cleaner? Or maybe a F-leather duster ( hang-on, that sounds a bit kinky...) Ooh, I know, you'd use a F-lush and shovel, gets rid of all the sh... ;)

[kittylefish]

i want a f-leather duster now ...

and i mostly use the 'delete' button, lol. ;P

[mimimanderly]

Sometimes, when a person has suddenly dropped off the face of LJ, I wonder wtf happened to them? Did they die? If that's the case, it's understandable that they wouldn't comment anymore (although in MY case, they could use my spirit board. Sheesh. Some people!) But then there are those who are posting like crazy one day and then suddenly stop cold. And I wonder if they got wrapped up in another social site... did they leave fandom... did they fall in love or get another job, so they have "real life" to contend with now.... It seems that they can leave one final blog for closure. I guess it's more proof, as if I needed any more, that there are people out there who treat other people as non-entities. Even more so if they never met them face to face. There have been people, over the years, that I felt that I was growing close to and that we were friends, only to have them just stop communicating cold turkey. A few have said they were doing it first, and yes, it hurts, but at least I know that they are still out there somewhere

[toblass]

It is indeed odd when folks stop communicating cold turkey. I know we all go through phases where we may not be too chatty or be content with just lurking. But more disturbing are the ones who just stop communicating with me personally, yet I still see them all over LJ. Did I offend that person? But with so many options for social media now, it's anyone's guess.

[kittylefish]

yeah, that thing where you see them all over lj so you *know* it's just you - that hurts. i try not to take it personally, and yet, sometimes, one can't help it.

[kittylefish]

i know, the weird thing about online friendships is they *could* die - that has happened with a couple of people who were friends of some of my friends. weird. i've thought about the need for a fandom 'executor' - someone who i would have a family member email to tell them i'm dead, lol, so that they could post an entry here to tell people. but i wouldn't know who to ask, so i haven't

[irishredlass]

I haven't been real chatty but I am still here :)

[kittylefish]

yeah, i see you there. :)

[toblass]

Sometimes I feel that way too. A good purge sounds good. *hugs*

[kerravonsen]

A good purge sounds good.

Oh dear, I had some unfortunate intestinal imagery flash through my mind at that...

[kittylefish]

it's part of clearing the clutter, you know?

[shefa]

Still here, just overwhelmed...

XXOO

[kittylefish]

oh, sweetie, i don't blame you one bit, given what's going on in your world. thanks for chiming in. *hugs*