Comments | ladyjenbug: The Plan: Phase 1

ladyjenbug

The Plan: Phase 1

Jul 29, 2008 08:55

Shortly after I graduated from college, I spent a day with my family and a couple with whom my parents are close. This couple is heavily into God. As we were saying goodbye, the husband said to me "God has a plan for you." (This was in context, as we'd talked earlier about my status as newly graduated and without much of a plan.) I, somewhat ( Read more... )

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wick98 July 29 2008, 16:10:58 UTC

Oh dear. Too much to say about this in a LJ comment. We should chat sometime... it's been forever.

ladyjenbug July 29 2008, 16:50:35 UTC

Yeah, no joke. Are you doing anything tonight? Tuesday evenings I'm left happily to my own devices, and I was thinking anyway that I should call someone to chat. I'd love to talk!

delahk July 29 2008, 19:29:48 UTC

Every time I think I have a plan....I don't. 28 and still wondering. 28 and still starting over. Still entry level. Still poor.

Putting God into it? Hm. Y'know, stuff like "God has a plan for you," kinda weirds me out. How about, "God wants to support your journey?" Imagining that there's some nice path that God laid out for us, that we just have to discover...that just adds to the stress.

That's my watered-down, 2-cent version of what could be a better conversation. But that's a livejournal comment. On an empty stomach.

*shakes head* fencerlitdiva July 29 2008, 20:50:49 UTC

Who told you guys that there was a plan? Or that there had to be one? I sort of randomly happened upon the whole librarian thing while finishing a second (useless) degree that I embarked upon as part of a previously created (and ultimately failed) plan. And that's after finishing college the first time and moving off to the "big city" with no sort of plan whatsoever ( ... )

Re: *shakes head* fencerlitdiva July 31 2008, 16:49:57 UTC

I tend to agree with you that "there is no plan". It's an idea that I've been coming to gradually, and am also gradually coming to like. I feel like this way leaves you open to more possibilities and therefore, more fun. We aren't static creatures.

My dad knew at 12 that he wanted to be a doctor, and I just assumed everyone was like that. Funny that I never considered my mom's situation. Didn't she always plan to be a stay-at-home mom? I only realized sometime in the past three years that most of what she's done with her life has been going with the flow. From her MLS degree (she had too much free time when Dad was in school, so she took classes) to staying home with us (couldn't work in the Phillipines), it's all been her taking things as they came. My point is that fulfillment isn't dependent upon a plan.

amy33024 August 10 2008, 03:53:41 UTC

Hugs! It is hard. The 20s suck. I'm thinking of you!

amy33024 August 10 2008, 03:57:12 UTC

I agree that "God wants to support your plan," whatever it may, whether it's just going with the flow or having an exact plan. It always seems that whenever I have a "plan" something comes along that totally confuses me. I wasn't planning on buying a car for a few years, planning to put our tax rebate money towards Nick's tuition.... didn't happen as I got into a car accident and totalled my car. Wasn't planning on meeting someone and getting married this quickly. You can have an idea of what you want to do, but you still have to be flexible enough to handle the challenges that life throws at you.