Comments | ladyscience: More thoughts

ladyscience

More thoughts

May 06, 2010 18:59

( I've been sitting on these for a while. Rambling and self-indulgent. )

Comments 13

bonisagus May 6 2010, 18:10:35 UTC

I know exactly how you feel. It's not a bad thing to be fabulous but goddamn it would be nice to be fabulous with someone. And when I say fabulous I speak of both of us ;).

ladyscience May 6 2010, 20:11:01 UTC

Right! :-)

21stcherryboy May 6 2010, 19:56:34 UTC

Maybe your life is one of those romance novels that get spinoffs for all the sassy single friends where they meet their handsome billionaire doctor pirate princes. Just wait for your sequel!

ladyscience May 6 2010, 20:57:18 UTC

I keep hoping.

queende May 6 2010, 20:52:02 UTC

holy crap i could have written this post! thank you for putting it into words:)

ladyscience May 6 2010, 20:57:58 UTC

You're welcome! It took some time to fully percolate through my brain.

ladyscience May 6 2010, 21:04:24 UTC

And feel free to re-post, distribute, etc.

dontcallmemolly May 6 2010, 21:53:50 UTC

Problem is, there are a ton of plain chunkerbuts out there who are in happy relationships. I frequently compare myself to them and wonder what the difference is ( ... )

bonisagus May 7 2010, 01:21:23 UTC

I somehow suspect that neither you nor ladyscience would settle for a man who can respect sass and wants a mousy plain jane type.

dontcallmemolly May 7 2010, 13:50:56 UTC

I don't think a man who wants a mousy plain-jane type would want anything to do with the lot of us.

ladyscience May 7 2010, 11:45:14 UTC

I can't even get through one date with a boring man, much less attempt a relationship.

At some point we may have to decide what is more important to us: holding out for someone that melts our butter, and accepting that it may not happen, or a relationship with someone that we may find boring or frustrating. I know which I've already chosen. It seems unfair though that I have to choose.

There's a rant about the patriarchy in there somewhere, but I'm not ready to completely articulate it yet.

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ladyscience May 21 2010, 22:09:22 UTC

Sorry it's taken me so long to respond to this.

I have in the past tones down my personality to fit in and attract people. It worked for about 5 minutes, and then I just couldn't do it anymore. I'm loud, blunt, and opinionated.

Part of why I'm single is because I'm picky about certain things. Part of it may also be that I'm intimidating (so I'm told), so maybe that makes me unapproachable. I'm also sometimes reluctant to make the first move because I'm afraid the other person won't find me attractive because of my weight. Which seems to be a new problem that I've developed since living here.