Jesus H Christ on a stick. Now you've written this down for us you should put this in an email/letter whatever their antiquated systems can cope with and make a formal complaint because that is just unacceptable. I'm fuming on your behalf. Seriously.
I haven't decided what to do yet. I've got to see her in a couple of weeks and I want to be able to have a working relationship with her but at the same time I do feel that her professional conduct should be brought into question.
I will give it more thought but whatever I decide will involve action of some sort, I don't intend to let it go and do nothing.
So this Jackie is the OT? She sounds terrible! I work for OTs and they would never put anyone through what she has put you through. I have to say I don't like the sounds of your hospital at all. I'm so sorry you've had such a worrying time since February but so relieved that you won't, after all, need an op. I'm really pleased that you told the consultant that it was Jackie who told you about the op and that Jackie was there at the time, serve her right!
I didn't realise you'd had an accident :(
I hope the antibiotics kick in very soon and that you are soon feeling better.
Sometimes writing things down actually helps to make things better :)
The first time I met Jackie after Andy had left, my friend came with me and she took an instant dislike to Jackie. I thought my friend was over-reacting, I'm a bit naive and like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately that translates as 'rubbish judge of character'.
Yes, there was no way I was going to let Jackie sit there and not make the consultant aware that it was her who gave me the information about the op!
I was in a car accident you can read about it here if you're interested.
By the way, I was dreadfully sorry to hear about your daughter's friend. It puts everything into perspective and I felt like quite the moaning Minnie after reading your post. Hope Sam will be OK.
I've just read about your accident, what a terrible, terrible thing to have happened. I read it with tears in my eyes about what you and your family went through and how poor P lost his life.
You say you are not brave or remarkable but I respectfully disagree with you wholeheartedly - you are most definitely brave and very remarkable.
Thank you so much for sharing that post with me.
Thank you for your kind comment about my daughter, she's finding it difficult to come to terms with at the moment. At least her friend had a lovely weekend with Sam.
Please complain about this stupid cow the moment you feel up to it. SOMEBODY has a self-importance syndrome based on trying to make others feel small, and although I am extremely sorry you had to put up with this nonsense, and end up very unwell as a result, I am glad she didn't get her claws into someone less confident in their life/own good sense.
Not that it was as lifestyle threatening, but I experienced a ghastly health visitor when I'd not long had the Boy (and it later turned out I had a form of postnatal depression) who started EVERY conversation with 'I don't mean to worry you BUT...', and I swear she got off on the worry and fear she brought in its wake.
Of course, I was lucky enough to have a retired midwife of some 40 years experience as a mother, and my own very arsey attitude to motherhood, but I still came home in tears every time I saw her, and now really wish I'd complained, if only to stop her putting anyone else through that.
And finally, just to complete this triumvirate of joy, the operation (which would
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As I was explaining to Amber I haven't decided what to do yet ^^.
I won't just let it go but I do want to be able to have a working relationship with Jackie. There aren't that many staff at the unit and I don't want to alienate myself with the OTs. Despite the fact that she was bang out of order, I can still imagine that they would close ranks and make me feel like the one who was in the wrong.
Nevertheless, I have been and sought out a couple of metal rods to take to my next appointment. :-)
I'm sorry you had to encounter such a horrible midwife. It is as if they get a sadistic pleasure relaying potentially worrying news.
I am put in mind of Blackadder and Baldrick's conversation about the benefits of blunt spoon, but frankly I'm already amused enough by the difference between my comment and the far more level silvershe_wolf's comment!!
I can see how this needs handling more delicately than this Jackie creature would be capable of/deserves. Perhaps an uber-professional conversation, backed up by a written list of how her actions made you feel would be helpful. I HOPE the daft cow has simply never thought of how her words/tone might sound to the receiver, because an attitude to back up her nonsense would need to go further.
Knowing you socially as I do, and knowing what a professional and all round good egg you are, it just boggles my mind that this woman would choose to treat you like an idiotic toddler.
I read this with increasing horror. What an ordeal that Jackie put you through for nothing! I agree with gregoria, you should lodge a complaint against her. She worried you half to death (and I would have reacted the same, bloody hell it sounded terrifying) for nothing AND she was patronising to you saying: "look at her face, she doesn't like that". It's like she was getting some sort of pleasure out of it
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What I can't get over is how much detail Jackie supplied, implying that the operation was almost routine, whereas in contrast, the consultant was suggesting that it was never done. So where did she get all that information from? And even if she was just 20% right, I still don't think it was her place to tell me. Surely that kind of information should come from more senior positions?
I finished the latest course of antibiotics this morning so we shall see how things go. I'm not feeling great but I do feel better than I did.
Thanks again for your kind words. I always find what you say very reassuring. Love back xx
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I will give it more thought but whatever I decide will involve action of some sort, I don't intend to let it go and do nothing.
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I didn't realise you'd had an accident :(
I hope the antibiotics kick in very soon and that you are soon feeling better.
Sometimes writing things down actually helps to make things better :)
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Yes, there was no way I was going to let Jackie sit there and not make the consultant aware that it was her who gave me the information about the op!
I was in a car accident you can read about it here if you're interested.
By the way, I was dreadfully sorry to hear about your daughter's friend. It puts everything into perspective and I felt like quite the moaning Minnie after reading your post. Hope Sam will be OK.
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You say you are not brave or remarkable but I respectfully disagree with you wholeheartedly - you are most definitely brave and very remarkable.
Thank you so much for sharing that post with me.
Thank you for your kind comment about my daughter, she's finding it difficult to come to terms with at the moment. At least her friend had a lovely weekend with Sam.
Thanks again L.
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Not that it was as lifestyle threatening, but I experienced a ghastly health visitor when I'd not long had the Boy (and it later turned out I had a form of postnatal depression) who started EVERY conversation with 'I don't mean to worry you BUT...', and I swear she got off on the worry and fear she brought in its wake.
Of course, I was lucky enough to have a retired midwife of some 40 years experience as a mother, and my own very arsey attitude to motherhood, but I still came home in tears every time I saw her, and now really wish I'd complained, if only to stop her putting anyone else through that.
And finally, just to complete this triumvirate of joy, the operation (which would ( ... )
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I won't just let it go but I do want to be able to have a working relationship with Jackie. There aren't that many staff at the unit and I don't want to alienate myself with the OTs. Despite the fact that she was bang out of order, I can still imagine that they would close ranks and make me feel like the one who was in the wrong.
Nevertheless, I have been and sought out a couple of metal rods to take to my next appointment. :-)
I'm sorry you had to encounter such a horrible midwife. It is as if they get a sadistic pleasure relaying potentially worrying news.
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I can see how this needs handling more delicately than this Jackie creature would be capable of/deserves. Perhaps an uber-professional conversation, backed up by a written list of how her actions made you feel would be helpful. I HOPE the daft cow has simply never thought of how her words/tone might sound to the receiver, because an attitude to back up her nonsense would need to go further.
Knowing you socially as I do, and knowing what a professional and all round good egg you are, it just boggles my mind that this woman would choose to treat you like an idiotic toddler.
But onwards and upwards, as ever.
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What I can't get over is how much detail Jackie supplied, implying that the operation was almost routine, whereas in contrast, the consultant was suggesting that it was never done. So where did she get all that information from? And even if she was just 20% right, I still don't think it was her place to tell me. Surely that kind of information should come from more senior positions?
I finished the latest course of antibiotics this morning so we shall see how things go. I'm not feeling great but I do feel better than I did.
Thanks again for your kind words. I always find what you say very reassuring. Love back xx
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