Give and take

[lama_fats]

give and take, push and pull, reign and release, give and take.

For years ive been trying to figure out where the middle ground is. When 2 people enter a relationship its often the way that one of them will pull the other away from thier particular group of friends. i think its more to do with the comfort level of the two together than much else (

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[trixiepixie7]

hrrrrmmmmmmm? that's a fair question... although I don't think the answer is cut and dry, black or white. I believe each situatation has it's own merits and considerations. My question.. is why can't we just "feel" what is right? and go with it?

[lama_fats]

i dont have a problem with going with the feelings of the two involved, thats what i did for years. but i recognized from the beginning that (in particular, my own)the relationship had affected more people than just the two involved. the social impact of coupling is what im trying to figure out. how does a couple manage to keep thier friends?

[bigesmall]

hmmm... i don't have an answer to your question. in my experience, the distance between me and my friends have grown apart gradually until neither of us even notice that we don't communicate anymore. i think that some people are just better with staying in touch with their friends through all the stages of their lives. i guess you just need to find out if you're the type of person who actively maintains friendships. if the friendship is important enough to you, i imagine that you would give a little more to insure that the friendship is secure, and, hopefully, your friends would do the same when you're a bit spent.

with emails, livejournal, etc., it seems much easier to stay in touch with old friends.

[lama_fats]

. i think that some people are just better with staying in touch with their friends through all the stages of their lives. i guess you just need to find out if you're the type of person who actively maintains friendships.

quite true. im ashamed to say im not a person who maintains friendships very well. may be because of the very transitory nature of my childhood. i was too young to maintain friendships over distance and grew into the habit of focusing on what was in front of me. ive attempted to change that over teh years but not to any degree of success. the internets kind of helped. i just wonder sometimes if i feel distant cause of the distance or the lack of communication.

[bigesmall]

my guess would be the lack of communication. casey is great with keeping up with friends no matter the distance. i envy that quality. i haven't had much success in changing my habits to do much about it, either. maybe for the same reasons. my family never seemed to stay in one place long enough, and I never seemed to make strong enough connections that overcame the strain of the distance.

[awakebydeath]

Sounds like an interesting conversation I'd love to have over coffee like we used to...

[lama_fats]

lets get together sometime. whens good for you?

[awakebydeath]

Sorry, haven't been online in a bit. :P

I could see about coming into town this Wensday? This weekend I'm going to my family reunion so I won't be around.

[lama_fats]

wednesday may work. keep in touch.