hell is for nice people

[leggylady]

I'm becoming very close to no longer being a nice person. It feels like every thing I've done over the past few weeks where I've tried to do what is "right" and "good" has come back to bite me in the ass in one fashion or another. Please don't ask me if this is about you. I will not confirm nor deny. When it comes down to it, this is not really

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[thebatt]

actually, i know just how you feel. sometimes it feels like no matter what you do and how much of the right thing to do it is, if feels like it's never enough for someone. a lot of times, it really isn't about you, it's just that the other person is just selfish.

*hugs*

[leggylady]

Most of the time, it is the other person being selfish, I fully agree-and some of the cases of late definitely fall smack in the middle of that category.
Though once in a blue moon, at least in my experiences, I think it can also be a case of horrible miscommunication and/or polar opposite expectations.

I'm not sure which is worse. And, yes, I'm going to continue to be vague. heh

[thebatt]

and i can totally understand why you're being vague. and i can totally respect that.

but i would have to say that a lot of times, miscommunications is to blame. especially when it's someone that you're close to and know well.

but if you need someone to talk to, message me. i can't go many places and i come on line as something to keep my brain active and happy. :)

[leggylady]

Yes. Very much so.

[wyndebreaker]

Well, seeing as how we've met only once, I'm pretty sure I had nothing to do with it. :)

I wore my Cal shirt last week and thought of you.

[leggylady]

YES, This post is all about YOU!!!! ;-P

I've been thinking about you lately as well, and have been meaning to write. Are you still coming out here in "Marchish"??? I mean the month is almost over, man. Let's hang out!

[wyndebreaker]

Yes, that was the plan, but work conflicts have pushed that back to early April. I ALMOST spontaneously hopped on a plane last week for the Death Guild 16th Anniversary, but I was responsible. Will let you know when I return home in a responsible manner. Soon. :)

[leggylady]

I understand about work conflicts (I've had my last few vacay plans cancelled due to work conflicts).
Do keep me posted!

[lollylo]

Sorry I was in London when I got your text, but we shall have chicken-apple snausages soon. Er, when are you free?

I'm taking Kyle to MEAT Thursday so will we see you there?

[leggylady]

MEAT is a maybe......
The rest of week, my schedule is so borked that getting enough sleep is going to be a challenge. That might be the only night that I have a chance of getting 8 hours, so I'm going to have to play it by ear.
I'll be in touch about SAUSAGE!!! YUM!
Can't wait to hear about London!

[discounttherapy]

When I first met the squid, he described himself as always being a GOOD person, without always necessarily having to be a NICE person. I think this is a valuable different to meditate on. One can be unrelentingly good and have unrelentingly good manners, but not have to be nice at everyone all the time. Think Dumbledore. Anyway, just something to ponder. I do think you're nicer than you need to be to people and in situations where simply being good, and having good manners, would suffice. Maybe the difference is boundaries and where they're at, and how much of one's emotional self one puts into every interaction. Be good to all, but save your love for the loving, kind of thing?

[leggylady]

This is, once again, great advice. Sometime to explore our our next tea, perhaps?