inevitability

[lgoin]

i have been so busy lately.  between working my two jobs, helping a friend campaign for senator for the Liberal Arts college, and filming an interview for a different friend, my schoolwork has taken a hit but most importantly, my relationship with Eric has taken a hit.  everything is fine, but i can see that he grows weary.  i feel very bad, but i

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[neutralmilkinn]

i know exacccctly how you feel re: your relationship. i basically broke up with mike for all the reasons you're citing about eric, except i was more like eric and he's more like you. he was getting so passionate and consumed by his career, and i was feeling really left out because his job was getting first priority, and it was wearing him out so when we were together he didn't want to do anything... it made me feel like we were going in different directions and had no future together. but like, it's been 3 months now since we broke up and i realized basically that he was right and i was wrong. i feel like i should have supported him instead of trying to mold him into the perfect boyfriend instead of emphasizing him becoming like a complete person and supporting him for following his dreams

[neutralmilkinn]

* i feel like i should have supported him instead of trying to mold him into the perfect boyfriend.

i tried rewriting that and forgot to delete half of the editted sentence

[lgoin]

awww thanks for the long comment! i always enjoy them. i want to make sure that Eric is getting the affection and attention that he needs- especially after reading all of your posts. it's made me a lot more conscious of him and his wants and needs. i am for sure going to keep following my dreams, but i am going to try really hard to hang onto Eric. if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out and i can walk away a little bit wiser. thanks again for the wisdom :)

[jess_kan]

:( this makes me sad.
I mean, you read my previous live journal post. I've kind of switched directions. Obviously I will not be a failure in life (lol at even thinking about us failing), but I have changed my priorities recently. I want love and my family and happiness and the little things, rather than an east coast office, traveling the world for work (it's lonely, i'll tell you that much).
I agree with what neutral milk is saying, but I also think that if you truly love eric (which i think you do) that there is such a thing as compromise. There are no absolutes.
However, if you think that your love for eric can be felt for another man on the east coast with the same priorities as you, don't hold back. If it's eric that you specifically want, I would definitely rethink things (not your goals or life plans), but simply how you're going to get there, so it can better accommodate you as a couple.

[lgoin]

i think you are right. at face value, it just looks about impossible. i think i just need to keep it posi :)

[____stellar]

All I can say is to keep your chin up and hope for the best. If it is meant to be then you (and he) will do whatever it takes to make it work. If not, then at the very least you can still be friends. :]

[lgoin]

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