As a single mother, one of the things I've heard a lot from the men I've dated is, "I don't want to compete with your son for your attention." Sometimes, they get creative with the phrasing; usually not.
But after ten years of hearing various iterations of the same thing, I have one thing to say about that:
Bullshit.
Kids require attention.
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My son routinely spends time alone in our apartment--an hour or so between the time he gets home from school and the time I get home from work, most of my trips to the store, a few hours when he doesn't feel like going with me to a double-header. He's old enough and responsible enough to mostly fend for himself around the apartment for a little while without burning the place down or getting into trouble.
When he falls in his roller derby scrimmages and other parents are like, "MICHAEL'S HURT!" I nearly always look over and say, "He's fine." Because I know my kid, and I can see that he's not injured.
The fact that I wouldn't abandon my eight-year-old to spend hours or days with someone who didn't want to "compete for [my] attention" doesn't make me a helicopter. It makes me a parent.
I am so sick of this bullshit.
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And I just can't see you being a helicopter parent. I've never picked up anything like that from you. And so what if you were? What would be wrong with being devoted to the upbringing of your child, really?
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Crazy!
Boy comes first, period.
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Someone like that has no business even THINKING about dating someone who is a parent. I can't believe someone would even SAY that!
Who's WhiteBuddha?
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I know it's bullshit, but it still pisses me off.
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