Comments | light_in_motion: Balancing act

light_in_motion

Balancing act

Jan 23, 2006 20:50

My mom had a great big wing chair. It's upholstered in an attractive floral tapestry pattern; mostly dark green with some mauve, burgundy, and cream. That chair and I are both now sitting in my brother's living room. I'm sitting on the corner of the couch nearest the chair; it, unsurprisingly, sits on the floor. I was reading, and got ( Read more... )

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light_in_motion January 24 2006, 02:52:49 UTC

Thanks for the sympathy, M.. it's some help.

Perhaps in time, I'll be able to enjoy the good memories of my mom. Right now, though, the loss is still too raw. Happy memories hurt; they remind me that they're all I have, when what I really want is her.

jdulac January 24 2006, 03:02:43 UTC

my sympathy. My grandmother died in 1976 -- I still miss her profoundly. My father is still very much in touch with her - he visits the cemetary regularly, talks over his problems with her. It's part of the Italian family tradition, the way the dead remain part of things. There isn't any solution for what you feel, but it is an inescapable part of life. I wouldn't rush into the "embracing the pain" part any sooner than you have to -- it will take care of itself with time.

light_in_motion January 24 2006, 03:19:59 UTC

Thank you, C. I appreciate your sympathy, sharing of yourself, and wisdom. *smiling* As who could not?

blimix January 24 2006, 05:15:43 UTC

Long, comforting *hugs*.

There is no elegant solution to bereavement. (Still, a good cry can be cathartic; just don't lose yourself in it.) Sometimes it just hits, and no matter what you do with it, it'll still hit you again later.

Time heals. You know that. The grief will hit you less frequently, until the faraway day when you notice that you've been thinking about her without pain for quite a while.

And remember to take advantage of your helpful support network of loving friends and family. We want nothing more than to do what we can to help you be happy. *love*

light_in_motion January 24 2006, 12:31:43 UTC

Thanks, Joe. I don't know why being told things I already know is so comforting, but it is. That makes remembering to enjoy the advantages of having all these wonderful, loving people in my life easy.