I eloped, and my sister threw us a reception when we got back. It was more a casual gathering of friends (there was a TACO bar!), but yes- we did get a few gifts out of it. Honestly, to us it was less about the gifts and more about being introduced as a married couple for the first time, without all the headaches a wedding ceremony can bring.
That isn't so bad. A friend of mine is getting married soon, and she and her guy are thinking of eloping but feeling guilty about robbing their parents of the chance to see them walk down the aisle. I'm just annoyed with all the suggestions to elope and then have some formal reception. It seems like double the headache anyway.
I don't get it. A wedding is a fairly simple, straight-ahead theatrical production. As long as you don't get too carried away with costumes or set designs, you can pull together a pretty nice ceremony with less than $500 and an hour's worth of phone calls. The logistical nightmares and major expenses come when you're trying to wine and dine 100-plus people afterward. Having the reception without the wedding doesn't really gain you anything.
I once worked with a couple who got married at the courthouse (it was a second marriage for both of them), then had a backyard potluck for all their friends and colleagues after their honeymoon. It was loads of fun and didn't really cost them anything beyond a few sandwich fixings and a cooler full of beer and soda. Their friends took care of the rest of the food, drinks, desserts, etc. I thought it was much better than the usual boring ceremony followed by cold chicken from an overpriced caterer.
Agreed. I think it's pointless. Anyone who wears a big, white dress to a reception that is not immediately following a wedding is, well, pretty flippin' nuts and totally not getting the point of the entire thing.
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I eloped, and my sister threw us a reception when we got back. It was more a casual gathering of friends (there was a TACO bar!), but yes- we did get a few gifts out of it. Honestly, to us it was less about the gifts and more about being introduced as a married couple for the first time, without all the headaches a wedding ceremony can bring.
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I once worked with a couple who got married at the courthouse (it was a second marriage for both of them), then had a backyard potluck for all their friends and colleagues after their honeymoon. It was loads of fun and didn't really cost them anything beyond a few sandwich fixings and a cooler full of beer and soda. Their friends took care of the rest of the food, drinks, desserts, etc. I thought it was much better than the usual boring ceremony followed by cold chicken from an overpriced caterer.
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