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[lottie_doyle]

I am sick of journos describing Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman's 2 kids as "adopted"... yeah, so they ARE adopted, but they are also, just their kids..... why make the distinction? when somebody adopts children, they become parents in every way; they ARE the parents of that child.

The reason this is in my head today is because i just read some

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[dawn_e_h]

You feel free to rant as much as you like honey !! You are quite right though... I'm sure you're parents would never think of introducing you as their "adopted child"... just like they're you mum and dad - you're their daughter... but that's the tabloids for you I suppose... anything to try and make their stories sound more interesting !

Not that this is a subject that I know very much about... except for my mum being adopted and being found by her twin last year !!

[lottie_doyle]

that's awful that they spilt your mum and her twin up?! why did they do that?!

[dawn_e_h]

I thought everyone knew the tale of my mum !! Quite sad really - her parents weren't married and broke up then she found out she was pregnant and had them adopted... I suppose back int he 40's keeping twins together wasnt that important... the sad bit was that their parents got back together some time later and tried to track down their daughters... but couldnt... both sets of adoptive parents had been told that the ohter twin was a boy !

[pet_lunatic]

I entirely agree with you - the people who bring a child up are its real parents, regardless of the biology aspect. A lot of people seem to assume that adoptive children necessarily have to be traumatised, or more sensitive, or different in some way from kids raised by their biological parents, but as far as I know there's no evidence for that.

A stable home life with a loving family is the sole most important thing for a kid, and it doesn't matter whether the people they live with are genetically related to them or not.

I've always thought the worst thing people can do to a baby is keep it when they can't look after it properly, for whatever reason.

[lottie_doyle]

thank you- that's exactly what i was trying to say! i'm so inarticulate sometimes!

[lolabobs]

When my parents found out that my brother was blind and autistic when he was 6months old, somebody said to my mum, "well, at least he's not your real child" as if that made it ok. Yet another bright spark asked her is she was "going to give him back"

OMG, I cannot believe that people exist who think that these are acceptable things to say to a person! This has horrified me.

I also have noticed the insistance of the media to include the A word in every reference to Tom and Nicole's kids (Yet they don't seem to with Sharon Stone, or Calista or even Angelina so much? Or is that just me?) - and did wonder how they were feeling with Tom doing the ridiculously OTT reaction to his baby routine. Thoughtless.

[lottie_doyle]

i do feel for those kids. i watched an interview with Tom yesterday (only watched it cos it was Russell Brand interviewing and i love him!) and, to be fair, Tom did talk about the wonder of his "kids" rather than just Suri..... i've noticed that they always call Angelina's children "the children she adopted"... not really noticed any others though... i just don't see why they feel the need to clarify it really.

[bekkypk]

Agreed. And don't feel bad about ranting, it's your journal after all :)
xx

[lottie_doyle]

thanks sweets. i'm aware that when i get worked up about something, i'm not usually particularly rational or open-minded about it..... making me just as bad as what i'm ranting about! but when i calm down i can usually see that :D

[sam1987]

Agreed. In every way possible

Yet another bright spark asked her is she was "going to give him back" like had she kept the fucking receipt?!

How can someone say that?? There aren't words to describe that...God. Totally pathetic.

Right, I mean I'm not adopted BUT 2 of my cousins are - 1 of them was actually abandoned in China. Another cousin (different family) is autistic, but Christ! Why does that mean they are loved any differently??

And it's not boring. AT ALL.

[lottie_doyle]

thanks for that sweetie. sorry i've not been around recently- hows your exams going?

[sam1987]

Not too bad thanks hun...

I've got my second literature one this afternoon...then it will be 7 (I think!) to go....

xxx