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[loveneverdies91]

I am 18 and found out yesterday that I'm pregnant. To be honest, I am freaking out and don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I are long distance (he just left 4 the army) but i dont think were ready. Although he thinks its 4 the best, I do not want to have an abortion. My parents would not be accepting and so I don't want to tell them the news. I

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[ninjette91]

The best thing you could honestly do (if you plan on keeping it) is tell your folks as soon as possible. Yeah, they will be upset for a little, but give it some time, they will get over it. (After all, they're going to have a grandchild!).

I waited until I was about 12 weeks until I told my mom. The whole time, I was so antsy be cause I wanted to tell her, but didn't want to get yelled at. When my boyfriend told her (I chickened out :/ ), I felt so much better because then we could talk about the situation, and I could get motherly advice from her. (Of course for months I heard "Well...you shouldn't have got pregnant!") but, now shes excited.

And from what it sounds like, with your boyfriend leaving for the army, you two will definintly be able to support the child, so I doubt they will be angry for long.

Hope everything works out for the best! (Sorry for the extra long comment though.) Good Luck!

Oh, and a good site to check out is Baby-Gaga.com. Any Pregnancy question you have, they will have an answer for.

[shamayim]

Man...I'm 29 and my parents weren't happy with me. I'm married. We aren't finacially set either and struggling. I'm 9wks. As far as your boyfriend, I can't believe he told you to get an abortion. Not sure what your views on abortion are, but its the chickens way out to me, plus I think its wrong IMHO. He needs to man up and plus since he's off to the army...he could marry you so you and baby could be taken care of for life. Just a thought. You aren't alone out there. I'm even having a hard time because I'm scared too.

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[sharshopaholic]

I'm 18 and pregnant also. I now live with my boyfriend (i did before the pregnancy). We plan on getting married soon. I didn't find out that I was pregnant until I was about 5 weeks. My parents weren't at all excited when they found out, and I didn't expect them to be, but they've warmed up to it, and are ok with it now. Seeing that I'm really not under their wings anymore. Which also sucks a bit, because I don't really have anyone to talk to. :'(

[loveneverdies91]

i think im gonna wait to tell my parents. their very strict & im hoping for the right time (i doubt there really is one) as far as the abortion goes i refuse even though hes insisting that starting our life together when he gets home will be much easier. i cant bring myself to get rid of my baby. so im probably gonna be struggling for a while =[

[nicolejanine]

I'm 22 and my husband is in the Army. When I told my mom the first words out of her mouth were don't tell anyone and get to a clinic as soon as possible. She and my stepfather were pushing for an abortion and didn't talk to me for a couple of weeks when I told them that we were keeping the baby.

It was hard for them to accept at first but now they can't contain themselves. My mom buys something for the baby on almost a daily basis, is planning on staying down here for a week after the baby is born, etc.

It's hard, but it's a lot better than having the stress of keeping it to yourself. And if your boyfriend and you get married, the Army will provide everything you need, not just money, but health insurance for you and the baby too!