I have a response to this, becky-dear. (this is alana, btw) Before I even start, please understand that I'm not trying to personally attack you, I'm offering my unsolicited opinion (which is a nice way of saying watch out, I'm going to be an asshole)
I understand where you're coming from about not liking your breasts and hips (I'm forever grateful that mine aren't too out there), but think about it. The way life goes, IMO, is that you have to take the good with the bad. They balance each other out. Thing is, you don't have to accept bad things other people may think of you, and I'm sad for you that you're letting the way some sleazeball may view you affect your take on life.
If you've ever heard of the Asian principle of wabi-sabi, you'll see what I'm talking about. It's a little like a yin and yang. If you haven't, the only way I can really translate it is that imperfection makes things beautiful because it makes them unique. There is nothing wrong with having something you don't like about yourself. You just have to accept them
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Don't worry, Alana dear. I've thought of all these things. I'm aware that the way I say things sound just the way you pointed out, and I don't mean them in quite that way. There's just no other way to say them!
I'm still as confident and happy as I was before. I'm not letting this bring me down. Of course, some things cause me conflict, like knowing that some people wouldn't understand--and I can't really expect them to, can I?-- and could reject me, or that might not be right...but this whole thing actually makes me really happy. When I first started reading about transstuf, I was like, "OMG, it's me!" Something clicked, and I knew what I was, finally. I was fine not knowing, figuring I was some strange enigma and being fine with it, but it's amazing discovering myself all over again, and finally being almost totally comfortable(cause who like everything about themself 100%? Arrogant douchebags, that's who) with myself. I love what I'm doing!
Unfourtunately, I can't be all that much help at this point. But, I CAN offer you my love and support. I'm always here for you whenever you need to talk. Sure, I mean, you are a beautiful girl. But what worth does you being beautiful hold, if you aren't happy. So by happy, male or female, and I'll be with you every step of the way. ^^
hi im just a random person commenting and i can totally understand what ur going through ...i would be trans but well the way my life is right now i think im ok with it so it'll wait but i always think about it from time to time... and yeah im ok with my body right and im really comfortable dressin as a guy even if my mom doesnt like it :P but yeah if u wanna chat about it just IM me or something..chao
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I understand where you're coming from about not liking your breasts and hips (I'm forever grateful that mine aren't too out there), but think about it. The way life goes, IMO, is that you have to take the good with the bad. They balance each other out. Thing is, you don't have to accept bad things other people may think of you, and I'm sad for you that you're letting the way some sleazeball may view you affect your take on life.
If you've ever heard of the Asian principle of wabi-sabi, you'll see what I'm talking about. It's a little like a yin and yang. If you haven't, the only way I can really translate it is that imperfection makes things beautiful because it makes them unique. There is nothing wrong with having something you don't like about yourself. You just have to accept them ( ... )
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I'm still as confident and happy as I was before. I'm not letting this bring me down. Of course, some things cause me conflict, like knowing that some people wouldn't understand--and I can't really expect them to, can I?-- and could reject me, or that might not be right...but this whole thing actually makes me really happy. When I first started reading about transstuf, I was like, "OMG, it's me!" Something clicked, and I knew what I was, finally. I was fine not knowing, figuring I was some strange enigma and being fine with it, but it's amazing discovering myself all over again, and finally being almost totally comfortable(cause who like everything about themself 100%? Arrogant douchebags, that's who) with myself. I love what I'm doing!
Thank you for your concerns, Alana my love <3
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