Comments | lunatickle: my non-commitment ceremony

lunatickle

my non-commitment ceremony

Jun 21, 2005 19:24

So, big news. After much wrangling and theorizing, Miss T and I have decided to have a Ceremony in Lincoln Park on April 16, 2006. We're unsure what to call it...we can't quite stomach it being a wedding, and we're as committed as we plan to be, so "Commitment Ceremony" seems asinine. It's a Love Party. A Tryst. A Lifemeld ( Read more... )

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futabachan June 22 2005, 01:48:21 UTC

Best luck, congratulations, and I'm sorry that we haven't been around in Cleveland to hang out with you more; you're faaaaaaabulous.

lunatickle June 27 2005, 19:44:03 UTC

if i had a canadian paradise to retire to, i wouldn't come to cleveland either. you could visit us DC, though, and wouldn't that be better?
cheers.

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lunatickle June 27 2005, 19:45:35 UTC

thanks, style girl. love party is my first choice, too, but then needs a good bit of translation...sigh.

anewsarah June 22 2005, 04:20:34 UTC

Congratulations!!

"We also felt that we want to celebrate the complete freaking miracle it is that we love each other. our differences are apparent, our connections so much more subtle. We're both short on intimacy skills and attention span. Neither of us wanted something long-term nor expected it...yet here we are 3-and-some-change years later, and so crazy about each other. We wanted our families and our tribe to have a party to recognize how cool that is, how truly transformative and wonderful. So the struggle has been how to make this idea, which feels RIGHT, jive with our politics."
This hits home for me, and I think thats an amazing idea.

p.s. Im in Richmond and am familiar with dc, if you need any neighborly advice...

lunatickle June 27 2005, 19:47:55 UTC

thanks! and thanks for your supportive comments to me in the past months, I'm interested in what you have to say.

know a cheapish safeish hipish place to live in DC? we need two bedrooms (at least). she's thinking tocoma park. suburban, but not that bad. what do you think?

cupcakecomplex June 22 2005, 05:10:39 UTC

here's where i spout my usual verbage toward togetherness ceremonies: "i'm happy if you're happy."

and you know, i really think you are happy, m'am.

i have to say, i am a bit suprised, but i do know how you ADORE a ritual! it only seems appropriate that you and Miss T have some gorgeous, public, ritual. So you guys.

by the way: i think i might have the perfect dress for you (if you decide to wear a dress). Vintage size 18 A-line bright pink floor length ballgown with a gold lame' lace flower overlay. I also have gold lame elbow length gloves to match. I've been saving it for something special. Let me know if you want to try it on!

lunatickle June 27 2005, 19:54:31 UTC

you are so thouroughly gorgeous. i am happy, and i notice i keep on being happy, and that this coincides closely with the time she's been around. (AWWW.) cheesy, yep, guilty. but sincere. and that's a good way to look at the ceremony -- maybe overly precious and certainly self-indulgent, but so extremely sincere.

and yes, it is very US -- we're planning the ceremony down the block from the place we had our BreakUp Party. ritual is key, parties are awesome, we like to dress up and be fabulous.

your dress sounds gorgeous, and i've passed it on to miss T as an idea -- out color idea so far is her in orange and me in lilac. however, ALL of my cute clothes and fully half of my wardrobe in general is provided by your own lovely self at this point, and you've never steered me wrong.

dress fabulousmisst June 30 2005, 00:36:45 UTC

girl, sign me up - i totally want to try that on!!

lilyofthewest June 22 2005, 14:12:17 UTC

Don't write off cake just because it's a traditional weddingy thing. Cake is an amazing thing all on its own merits. Mmmm cake.

lunatickle June 27 2005, 19:57:55 UTC

i take your ideas extra seriously as a veteran (survivor?) of a poly-dyke-unusual wedding ceremony, and i do enjoy some cake, but i'm thinking lemon tartlets or baklava.

got any other advice? I loved your dresses SO SO SO much, but fuck if I'm going to sew for six months for this thing. ideas are welcome.

lilyofthewest June 27 2005, 22:31:06 UTC

Ohhhh....baklava is always a good idea.

Hmmm...on the dresses front, just look around a lot and then wear something you love. Don't worry about if it looks the way you'd dreamed or if it's too wedding-y or not wedding-y enough. Just wear something that makes you fill overflowing with fabulousness.