i hate being confused

[lynxyoukai]

the more i think about it the more i don't know. how can i not know?!? how can it elude it me so much? i mean really...how the hell can't i know? i know i like guys but i like girls too...why does it have to be difficult? why can't i just wake up and know...why?! can anyone tell me? is there something i can do...some test...some little question

Comments

[aphrael27]

This probably will sound callaus, and I don't mean to, but I think you are really worrying about this too much. Its quite possible that you are bisexual and attracted to both guys and girls. It can be confusing, but try not to let it overwhelm you. If there is someone who you are attracted to or fall in love with, then deal with the issue as it relates to that particular person, regardless of what sex they are.

My advice may not mean much. I've never had this confusion and I've been hetero all my life, which is usually more accepted. Just try not to add more to the confusion by complicating the matter.

Hang in there.

[lynxyoukai]

i may just be stressing over something that doesn't matter much. i just want to know... i think i am probably bisexual and am most likely just added a lot more confusion that this issue needs to have.

[anduril_phoenix]

You very well could be bisexual. There's nothing wrong with that--in fact, it opens up the playing field a little more. :P But seriously, it's not something that's going to resolve itself overnight. My suggestion would be to try and date both guys and girls and get an idea of whether you're attracted to just one gender or both. You'll figure it out. *hugs*

[lynxyoukai]

i think i am...i mean, when i really think about it i am probably bisexual. it just seems to fit me. yeah, it does kind of open up the playing field. it was kind of wierd today. me and my sister were talking about how we are like the biggest dorks on the face of the earth and what kind of guy we need. i mean i did tell her i was gay...half by accident. it was just a little wierd to hear her be like, "isn't that the kind of guy you want?" i mean it is but it is still a little wierd...does that make sense? i don't know. i am definately attracted to both genders. i try to be attracted to one but it doesn't work out...i just like both. i just kind of want to be attracted to one because being attracted to both gets confusing...can i hide the fact from whoever i am going out with? i mean i think someone might find it a little discomforting. i'm probably just being stupid and pessimistic. i think i do have it figured out...i just kinda don't like the answer. -hugs back-

[anduril_phoenix]

There's nothing wrong with being bi. And any person you date that says otherwise isn't worth your time anyway.

[lynxyoukai]

yeah...i just don't like being confused and being bi is kinda confusing...you...or i atleast don't know who to look at. -shrugs- i don't think i am worth anyone.

[mel_n_choly]

I am also attracted to both men & women, but for me it isn't strictly a case of "I'm bi." I just find that I can find beauty, both physical and spiritual, in both sexes. While I am engaged to a man and am extremely turned on by him I also find the female form so breathtaking. When you add on a great personality and some inner strength/spirit I am physically attracted to that person. The same goes for men. Don't worry, you're not bi, just greedy ;)

[lynxyoukai]

-tears up-i...i..i-m greedy? i don't feel greedy...i feel confused...and a little hurt now. just kidding. i do think i am bi. before i would have said i am lying to myself just as i was not too long ago. when i think about it though i definately see physical beauty in men and in women...and spiritual beauty has nothing to do with your gender...or i feel that way. i have only been with women but i often think about being with a man. i think my bisexuality is a product of my nature and nurture. i say this because most of the world asks me to be with a woman but my nature says there is nothing wrong with being with a man and that may be somewhat from nurture too because i was raised completely by women.

[lynxyoukai]

i think i am bisexual in a big way...but sometimes i wonder. i mean i did love sarah and cody (my exes) but is it because i was too weak to admit my true feelings. i just hate being able to think sometimes. i mean i know i want to be with men but something in me says i want to be with women too...the question is, is the voice saying i want to be with women my own or that forced into my head by modern society? i've always been able to admit to myself that i find men sexy...even i felt a little ashamed by the fact. society just wants a name for everything so they can say it is right or wrong...god, sometimes it isn't that simple. hell, love is never simple. thanks for the new knowledge (i.e. i didn't know)...it makes me feel a little better. -hugs-

[lynxyoukai]

i know...it is just hard for me not to have the answers. i'm usually the guy people come to when they need an answer and i have nothing here. well, not nothing, but not enough for a definitive answer. i do think i'm bi though...the more i think about it the more i feel that way. both because i have been with two women who i loved and still do love in some way very dearly even if they did crush my heart while smiling. either way, i am pretty good at hiding my feelings...now adays it seems a little harder because i find myself watching sexy men more often...i mentally hit myself after i notice it but i still do it. of course i know apollo ^_^...i was into greek mythology for a very long time. i find it very interesting. i never saw the alexander movie and i heard angelina jolie stole the flame and the whole movie alexander was laying it on thick with some guy...i mean drunken prom date thick. i have watched reign: the conqueror though and that really makes it obvious that alexander and hephastion are together (it's an awesome anime...

[naede]

you could be bi that is a choose where you like guys and girls...i also hate confusion it drives me insane i dont understand why i do the things i do and the more i think about things the more i'm confused i hated it and wish i have a magic wand to make it easier to understand *pulls hair out* i'm so f***in confused!!! i hate it!! *hugs* *cries on shoulders*