I wrote this out the other day, while I was on the bus. I wasn't going to post it, as things may have changed a bit, but I decided to anyway
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Oh dearest, pleas elet us know how that talk goes! I'm so glad I Read this before sacking off to bed early!
My goodness, I feel for you. Alex is almost the same as Shawn, except he is the exact oppisite about marriage(he's pushing too hard for it), but in all other respects, the same.
I understand. I mean it. The "obligation" for sex. My god, I'm so sick offeeling guilty for not putting it out. I know how you feel. I think the lack of drive is depresion and worries and a whole bunch of things, so make sure you talk about all that with your doc as well. I know I used to be ravenous, and now I want to scream (not in a good way) every time he touches me.
I really do understand, all except the length of time. I haven't had 16 years, I've had 4.
Just know I'm here for you, I love you, and I hope to give you some strength to get through this. You shouldn't have to cry in a room alone. Ever.
I think he really opened the door for your conversation by phrasing the comment the way he did...whether he meant to or not. It almost sounds like a passive-aggressive way of trying to open a dialogue...which many men are guilty of. They want to talk, but they don't want to initiate, so they do snarky stuff that makes you want to scream just so you'll start, then they jump in and feel justified in whatever they say
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The problem with the sexual aspect of a relationship is, it seems to often become the focal point, the proof of love or the lack thereof, the measuring stick for the relationship. It's natural that it should be so, and yet, I think it can't be the only thing used to measure love. It's the most obvious, but not the only thing. Unfortunately, for a lot of men, it's the only thing they know, because they are set up as sensitively as women are
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Oh my dear *hugs you* Thank you for being so candid about your situation. Please take or leave anything I say here. From this one entry I hardly have enough information to scratch the surface of your sixteen years together. But even if I lived in your pocket, I am not you and I am not Shawn so I have no clue what I am talking about. Here goes, anyway
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(((((((((Lyria))))))))). I am sorry you are having such a hard time, honey. I have only ever had sex with one guy, and that just three times and I haven't even had a date since 2002, so I can't really give you advice on this. I hope you find some peace, either with him or without him.
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My goodness, I feel for you. Alex is almost the same as Shawn, except he is the exact oppisite about marriage(he's pushing too hard for it), but in all other respects, the same.
I understand. I mean it. The "obligation" for sex. My god, I'm so sick offeeling guilty for not putting it out. I know how you feel. I think the lack of drive is depresion and worries and a whole bunch of things, so make sure you talk about all that with your doc as well. I know I used to be ravenous, and now I want to scream (not in a good way) every time he touches me.
I really do understand, all except the length of time. I haven't had 16 years, I've had 4.
Just know I'm here for you, I love you, and I hope to give you some strength to get through this. You shouldn't have to cry in a room alone. Ever.
((((((((((((Kristen))))))))))))
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I got your email, and we will book a time, sweetie. I need my Sheila fix! *smiles* How I wish we could just go out to dinner....
I'll let you know. Hope I don't chicken out, cuase i know he won't bring it up again.....
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