Comments | magnolia_5: annoying, nosy mother-in-law

magnolia_5

annoying, nosy mother-in-law

Jun 10, 2005 07:33

~*Now, normally I do not get up at 7am and starting blogging here, but I am totally irritated and I need to vent on this issue. (Of course I was up feeding Jaden anyway, but there is no way I will sleep now). So here's the thing: we got an envelope in the mail yesterday that was addressed to Paul, which came from his family (specifically: his ( Read more... )

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yrushallow June 10 2005, 08:23:08 UTC

I think she was just trying to be nice and saying something about THIS particular thing will probably just hurt her feelings hence either making her pissy with you or making her vindictive and she'll try all the harder to do stuff like this b/c she knows it bugs you. I do see your point though about stealing your thunder and it would annoy me if I were in your shoes, but in looking at it from HER standpoint, she was probably only trying to be nice and share in the excitement of new grandchild..

magnolia_5 June 10 2005, 08:59:19 UTC

I know she was trying to do something nice, and all, but I guess I am just totally "over" her and how she is always doing these sort of things. I really don't think I want to expend anymore energy on it though. Part of me feels like I should say something though, b/c otherwise I will never be heard. UGH!

yrushallow June 10 2005, 11:02:16 UTC

True. I see what you mean about speaking up. Otherwise she will just keep inflicting herself upon you. MILs are difficult, no?

magnolia_5 June 10 2005, 11:09:05 UTC

Oh that is for damn sure! heh.

subpolka June 10 2005, 08:52:37 UTC

Hmm. I can definitely see why this would piss you off, given your MIL's overbearing history; however, I would not choose this specific incident to go to war over, because - if she's as evil as you described - she could isolate this particular act of overbearing'ness and turn it around to make you sound over-sensitive, even if you're not. You following me, here? Because - separated from the rest of your history with her - it might not sound like a big deal; however, I understand that this is just one more incident in a string of incidents, and that you're not being over-sensitive (in my opinion). I just don't know if this is the one thing that you want to go head-to-head with her over, y'know?

I'm undercaffeinated and (clearly) not making sense.

That aside, I'm sorry that she preempted your F-Day prezzie. :)

magnolia_5 June 10 2005, 09:02:34 UTC

Thanks Rachel. You did make perfect sense to me, and I think I am going to just probably let it slide, unless Paul happens to mention it to her when he talks to her, in a sort-combative way. I guess am just really tired of having to deal with her antics. Having a child, is only going to make her get worse, I am sure, but ignoring things also works for me--at least she is not physically here!

magnolia_5 June 10 2005, 09:03:31 UTC

oops--I meant, a NON-combative way!

scarabellum June 10 2005, 09:15:12 UTC

rachel has a very good point. you can be upset but don't make it more than it is.

magnolia_5 June 10 2005, 09:20:28 UTC

I know you are right. I am thinking of just forgetting about the whole thing anyway.

beansbouf June 10 2005, 09:22:53 UTC

i would be very annoyed. it is your place/intention/right to enjoy the first father's day card coming from jaden to paul via you. she should have sent one from her to him saying that he will be the best dad ever and how happy she is for you both. or just a card saying happy father's day to the newest father of your family. i think that it is insensitive and is sort of aggressive. i think that it is her way of mothering and still thinking of paul as a child (and you by extension) that needs this sort of stuff done for him.

however, that said, is her intention to be this way? if so, that's her stuff and you can't change her. you might want to let this go and go about with your card anyways. do you think that you can let this one go? it's okay to be pissed off and not act on it. you and paul are communicating about it, and that's what matters most.

magnolia_5 June 10 2005, 09:27:43 UTC

Elizabeth, you completely understand what I am feeling! In the first paragraph, you have read my mind, and if I was thinking more clearly when I posted, I might have written all of that too!

I know her intentions are good, usually, but she just can't help it but to try to orchestrate our lives. She also does this to Paul's sister and fiance'--who she pisses off regularly as well. I think I am going to let it go, and just know that she can be on my shit list for a while. ;)

beansbouf June 10 2005, 09:32:12 UTC

ugh. she does sound pretty awful!

my mother in law was over last weekend and told liam (my nephew) "i am sort of your mommy". i couldn't help it and i said "what the fuck are you talking about". she said that because tom is divorced and kami is only with liam 50% of the week she is the closest thing to a mother that liam has right now. i explained that kami is liam's mom. that's all. she is his grammy. i am his aunt. kami is his mama. it wasn't pretty. but, what was she thinking?????

it is going to be rough for her when steve and i have kids.

magnolia_5 June 10 2005, 09:40:06 UTC

Oh lordy, that sounds like my mother-in-law. What *was* she thinking? That is ridiculous! It's like their intentions may be good, but their delivery sucks!

lishylooloo June 10 2005, 09:48:06 UTC

definitely give him the card anyway, it will mean a whole bunch coming from you and jaden :)

magnolia_5 June 10 2005, 10:45:39 UTC

I am planning to do that. I know Paul will love it, too. Who cares what she is trying to do? Ha!