Comments | maribou: I wrote another thing, few weeks back

maribou

I wrote another thing, few weeks back

Jul 27, 2016 20:26

It's pretty heavy going but I'm glad I wrote it.

http://ordinary-gentlemen.com/2016/06/16/introretrospective-ii-violence-family-and-loss/

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sartorias July 28 2016, 02:56:27 UTC

What courage that took! I am more sorry than I can express that it all happened, and how long the shadow lasted.

I hope that this speaking out will reach others who are silent out of fear.

maribou July 28 2016, 21:12:13 UTC

Thank you. The blessing of having posted it on that website with such a larger audience is that I know (because of email) that it's already reached, and touched, a person or two who've been through similar things.

I think the shadow is still there, tbh - if anything it's harder now than it has been at some times in the past, because I'm so much more aware of everything (dissociation can be a blessing), but haven't gotten to the point in the work where it's mostly resolved yet. And on some level, there's just stuff that never goes away, you know? I'd love to think I won't still be feeling the physical effects of living that way 20 years from now, but it seems rather unlikely.

But still, the overall effect of the work I've done has been a blessing. Akin to how much lighter my head always felt when I got a hair cut when I was a teenager - just hoping it eventually feels as much lighter as my head did the first time I shaved off all my hair :D.

sartorias July 30 2016, 15:21:08 UTC

I think we all process differently. My sister and I have talked about this (whereas our experiences were not as horrible as yours, they were bad enough); there are some aspects to us that are evidence of the very long shadow cast by those experiences half a century ago and more. But in other ways, we have worked through and come out the other side, with insight enough to try to pass on what we've learned, so that the generations after us don't repeat the pattern.

maribou July 31 2016, 07:47:33 UTC

That makes sense. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

manintheboat July 28 2016, 02:59:58 UTC

I love you.

And it's been MONTHS! What shall we do next?

maribou July 28 2016, 21:13:02 UTC

I love you too.

We're out of town this weekend, superbusy next weekend, I'm out of town the following weekend, then we're doing hard labor for friends the weekends before and after labor day.

What are you doing Labor Day weekend?

manintheboat July 29 2016, 02:56:27 UTC

9/4 I think I am throwing my birthday party, Ice Cream Party!

maribou July 29 2016, 04:34:26 UTC

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooooh, Ice Cream!

I will see if I can make Jay go to a party or not. If not, maybe we can visit a different day that week? Or I could come up for party and y'all could come down a different day that month.

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loree July 28 2016, 04:39:13 UTC

Oh, honey. I love you, and admire the courage it took you to endure this man, and to write that article.

maribou July 28 2016, 21:13:18 UTC

Thank you, and I love you too. Glad I get to see you soon.

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maribou July 28 2016, 21:13:41 UTC

Thank you. Love to you and yours too. (Especially those ridiculous and wonderful kittehs.)

sistawendy July 28 2016, 20:48:19 UTC

I never would have guessed. You seem better adjusted than I am.

I'm glad you wrote this; it was obviously hard to do so. It could help somebody in need.

Woman runs away from potential trouble in Canada to the United States. Man bites dog. Film at 11:00. Good riddance to bad trash. That good part of him wasn't enough to prevent him from leaving a trail of human destruction.

maribou July 28 2016, 21:19:43 UTC

Well, and it's pretty funny (at least to me) that he actually ILLEGALLY IMMIGRATED to the United States and then got deported back to Canada as part of the criminal proceedings .... I'd honestly much rather he was still stuck in a US prison than living in the same province as my family, the same place I grew up, but unfortunately I don't control the world ( ... )