Comments | mawychick: In re: to Polling the f-list

mawychick

In re: to Polling the f-list

May 12, 2009 21:52

I had a lady I was playing phone tag with yesterday - we'd never actually spoken on the phone before - return my call at 9:40 and leave a message - never apologizing for the hour of her call. My momma has me trained - NO phone calls after 9pm unless you know the person is up and not going to be bothered by your call! I was shocked - so I wanted ( Read more... )

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_insanity_lost May 13 2009, 02:17:32 UTC

I guess it depends on what kind of call it is. My friends and I kind of lead "late" lives, we don't usually even get home until 9 or so, so I guess that wouldn't be a big deal to me. I think after midnight would wake me up though. And I might think it was weird.

ladygoat May 13 2009, 03:09:10 UTC

wow, if you've never spoken on the phone to this person before then she falls under the unfamiliar rule and 9pm is the limit. in my opinion.

mawychick May 13 2009, 12:26:22 UTC

agreed!

techfury2k May 13 2009, 03:18:00 UTC

"Hi. yeah, I don't have your file so you call me back tomorrow. kthnxbi"

willow_dragon May 13 2009, 13:21:40 UTC

If you don't know me, you better not call after 9pm...10pm the absolute latest, cause that's when I go to bed.

courtly May 13 2009, 13:26:00 UTC

For me the rule was usually 10pm actually.

But how would I have reacted? Just let the call go to voicemail and check it in the morning.

mawychick May 13 2009, 23:00:26 UTC

curiosity would always get the better of me;) We also no longer have a home line, so the cell is always in the bedroom in case of emergency calls. Not that we were even upstairs to get the call, or bothered by the hour. It's more of a principle thing with me.

courtly May 14 2009, 00:34:49 UTC

But what principle? And what's the appropriate reaction?

Is it fair to assume others were raised with the same rules as yourself (I personally was raised with "don't call acquaintances after 10", as an example... probably because our households tended to go to bed later).

I tend to find it doesn't pay to assume that someone has transgressed unless you know they're aware of the rule they're transgressing.

mawychick May 14 2009, 01:45:28 UTC

I think that it was ingrained in me as a Southern sort of rule that everyone knew..which is why I'm surprised when it's not. Hence the polling;) The other factor, which I hadn't remembered to include earlier was that this woman is easily twenty five years my senior - I'd also assumed that her age would pitch her more into my territory of expectations. Obviously, years of assumption should have taught me it's a bad idea by now;)

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