Comments | melephant24: I'm better off

melephant24

I'm better off

Aug 25, 2008 10:26

I really hate it when someone who's had more than one relationship in the time I've been single (which is a very long time) tells me I'm the one who's better off. She thinks she's going to get hurt because the guy she's now with isn't over his ex so I'm better off. Maybe I won't get hurt, but I also won't have anyone in my life I can count on. I ( Read more... )

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emaline412 August 27 2008, 19:39:24 UTC

I really hate it when some chick I work with starts "complaining" at me about how she hasn't even been out of her last relationship for a month, and she thinks she's already getting into another one!
"I really liked being single!"
Yeah, well, I don't.
Woe is me; cry me a river!
Some people really don't have a clue how the words they say will affect others.

I don't know your situation, and I'm not sure how long "a very long time is," but I hope you won't lose hope. A very long time isn't forever.
I hope this comment doesn't rankle you.
With love from a stranger on citizen_graves' friends list.

melephant24 August 29 2008, 13:52:42 UTC

Hehe... I welcome new commenters :)

The sad part is it's my best friend and I feel like we have the same conversation over and over again and she just doesn't get it.

I'm trying not to lose hope, but it's difficult... I'll say 'a long time' is nothing of significance in over 5 years...

citrus_lunchbox August 29 2008, 03:11:38 UTC

Question is...do you want to be just like that person who dates someone new every month? My cousin does that sort of thing and says I'm better off not having dated anyone in between his latest. We're both getting that very same message. So it musn't be all that great...but to be honest I wouldn't know either. Yep it sucks being the single one all the time...but I've sort of embraced it. If someone comes along thats interesting and we hit it off then OK.

I just know I can't do the new relationship all the time sort of thing...I invest too much in people to do that. Do you think thats also your "problem"?

That sucks about your car...its been pretty unluckly recently hasn't it? Get it all sorted out now?

melephant24 August 29 2008, 13:54:34 UTC

No, I don't want to date someone new every month... but if once in a while I could date someone new, whether it works out or not, at least I'd know there's still hope for me... that someone out there can like me.

I think my problem is that I don't meet new people that I'd even want to be in a relationship with... or even go on a date with for that matter...

Yah, my car broke down AGAIN on Tuesday night... stupid idiots at Mazda did a minor repair on Monday and told me it was fixed.... I really don't buy that the alternator was perfectly fine on Monday and then completely shot by Tuesday night...

citrus_lunchbox August 29 2008, 15:25:25 UTC

Yep I hear you Mel. Once in a while would be nice but the meeting new people thing is definitely a problem isn't it? Work all day....go home...collapse. Doesn't make it easy at all.

Things seem to have a way of working themselves out...somehow....eventually. Thats what I'm holding out for anyways :)

Ever through about trying something like eHarmony or something like that? I once considered but not completely sold on the idea. Despite being a part of that whole net-generation thing I still think its a bit weird!

What a nightmare about the car! Which dealership did you take it to? I hear there are some good Mazda dealers and some bad ones in Toronto from reading the Mazda3 Toronto club forums. Seems to run the range.