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A weekend to myself
Well the wifes off to the SF Pride celebration. I had planned to go with him. That was before everything he wants fell neatly into his lap. That kind of hit me pretty hard, and made me realize that no matter how much compromise and negotiation we do in the end I don't have much of a say here. I fell back on a defense mechanism I haven't used ( Read more... ) -
More stuff on page.
I've been kind of down lately, I've been having doubts about whether I can really do this. Same answer, I don't know. I have some serious issues with that answer, one being, the whole not knowing part. Had a less than productive therapy appointment today, well I guess not totally, I always come away with something to think about. I have mostly been ( Read more... ) -
Wow, I actually made it to a therappy appointment
I had a therapy appointment yesterday. She brought up some good points. On our current sex life she says I should take Tad at his word, he values the closeness as much as I do and obviously he hasn't lied to me, otherwise I would still be blissfully ignorant and not dealing with my wife being trans. So, essentially get over it, any problems I'm ( Read more... ) -
Not dealing sounds fine to me
You know I'm really trying to deal with this and understand what's going on and what will be going on. Scouring the internet is really not a help. I've found lots of information about divorce rates, couple that with what my wifes therapist is saying, that my marriage may not succeed, and this shit sucks. I don't plan on leaving my wife and, I'm ( Read more... ) -
Wrong answer
The wife and I went to go see his Dr. about some concerns, a lingering cold, hormones and his current lack of sex drive. While it was very affirming for my wife, I could have thought of better things I could have been doing. He had no solutions to my wifes lack of interest in sex, other than refering him to an endochrinologist. I would rather have ( Read more... ) -
You can go away, you can leave here, you can be Invisible
R.I.P. Ronnie James Dio -
All of the above is not always the best answer
Okay, so one day I told my wife that I would rather he came out to me as asexual rather than trans. Now he's been off his hormones for quite some time, and honestly he seems to be doing great. The problem is he's still a he, and now he's asexual. I just have to say, pick one dammit I don't think I can handle both. -
I can't believe the shit my brain comes up with sometimes.
This needs to be prefaced with these are just nagging thoughts and fears, not accusations. I can't help but question how long my wife has been out to himself. Was the decision to get a hystorectomy a way to get rid of his female bits ( yes I know at the time we decided to go ahead we thaought it was medically necessary). If my wife was out, at ( Read more... ) -
Life goes on
Finally getting over this creeping crud that I've had for awhile now. Still a little bit down, I don't know why. Starting to get migraines again and I don't think I'm really stressed so don't know what the hel that's all about.
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Putting things into words
I realized something last night or atleast verbalized it. I find my wife physically beautiful, and now he wants to change that. It's not like I don't expect appearances to change naturally. People age, my wife and I look different from the day we met, the day we got married, probably even last year. But that's gradual, it's what time does. I was ( Read more... )