Yeah. Stego and I actually are into leaving each other at cons. Usually he has something he wants to do and I have a panel or something I want to catch that conflicts. At Califur, we barely see one another because of my commitment to the Cabaret.
That said, its also needed. I think we really enjoy our couplehood a lot better because we are two independent pieces that come together nicely and enhance one another. At cons and events, we usually have some sort of "separated time" whether of our own intention or not. At the end of the day, we come together and recap our day to one another as a segue way to the next day. It really keeps our relationship from becoming smothering or from taking away the parts about ourselves that make us "Stego" and "Kat" rather than "StegoandKat".
Incidentally,as an aside, you do have one advantage that some furry couples dont--- you BOTH fursuit. Im not saying this is a rare trait in the fandom (but it was at one time) these days, but it has its advantages.
One thing that Stego and I come together for is the evening outings. We may not stay together that whole night, but we get together sometime in the evening after our supper has settled in our stomach and help get our suits on. His suit is made to be kind of TIF (as an upcoming one for me will be -- I might need to ask you a few things) so he needs help. So, while I tighten his corset and make sure his PVC outfit has no stray threads, we bond.
To this day, I still consider myself the luckiest girl in fandom to have found someone like Stego that really matches my views on how relationships should be (how they should be for me anyway)
this is something we are working on. we both want to be in suit, and we both want to be stuck there. so its hard to choose who gets to do what when. which is why the time away works so well, we were both more willing to share when we came back together, as long as it meant being together.
It was great to see both you and Grant again and actually spend some time with you guys. That gathering in your room was very fun and certainly a highlight for twigmouse so it was important to me also. Thanks for making his send-off a good one! I wish I got to hang with you guys like that more often!
Also, much respect for taking responsibility for the pseudo drama rather than just letting it perpetuate as someone else's fault. Makes me proud to have friends like that!
I'm always torn between saying things and not. like if I didnt say ANYTHING, I would bear all the emotional burden. but if I say something I risk making someone feel bad.
But as I go through it, I realize that if I just hold it in, I'm assuming that they will react in a mean and hurtful way. I need to trust that y friends will be more understanding than that.
In a way putting in this post is like a cop out. I'm not straight up telling them whats up, but I'm also not holding it in. In a way this is what I did before. I vented my anger to grant, who then took action, rather than just confronting them myself. once again I'm venting my anger, and not directly confronting the people who I feel hurt by. As you can see I'm still trying to work this one out.
but all that aside, I DID have a great time hanging out, it was alot of fun, since we don't usually get to hang out very often, or for very long.we;ve gotta get more time off, or you've gotta come down here!
Well just remember it is good to vent to those you trust. It gives you an opportunity to reflect on the situation a bit. It isn't necessary to always say something, it may just cause more drama! Ya gotta pick your battles :)
I actually LOVE seeing you at a con. most of the times I see you you are in Caspian, and you make one of the BEST birds ever. I just love seeing you runnin around, so the feeling is definately mutual.
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here is a scan of the Mercury News.
here is a pic of the Humboldt House shoot getting set up. What's the name of Java's red merle?
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That said, its also needed. I think we really enjoy our couplehood a lot better because we are two independent pieces that come together nicely and enhance one another. At cons and events, we usually have some sort of "separated time" whether of our own intention or not. At the end of the day, we come together and recap our day to one another as a segue way to the next day. It really keeps our relationship from becoming smothering or from taking away the parts about ourselves that make us "Stego" and "Kat" rather than "StegoandKat".
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One thing that Stego and I come together for is the evening outings. We may not stay together that whole night, but we get together sometime in the evening after our supper has settled in our stomach and help get our suits on. His suit is made to be kind of TIF (as an upcoming one for me will be -- I might need to ask you a few things) so he needs help. So, while I tighten his corset and make sure his PVC outfit has no stray threads, we bond.
To this day, I still consider myself the luckiest girl in fandom to have found someone like Stego that really matches my views on how relationships should be (how they should be for me anyway)
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Also, much respect for taking responsibility for the pseudo drama rather than just letting it perpetuate as someone else's fault. Makes me proud to have friends like that!
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But as I go through it, I realize that if I just hold it in, I'm assuming that they will react in a mean and hurtful way. I need to trust that y friends will be more understanding than that.
In a way putting in this post is like a cop out. I'm not straight up telling them whats up, but I'm also not holding it in. In a way this is what I did before. I vented my anger to grant, who then took action, rather than just confronting them myself. once again I'm venting my anger, and not directly confronting the people who I feel hurt by. As you can see I'm still trying to work this one out.
but all that aside, I DID have a great time hanging out, it was alot of fun, since we don't usually get to hang out very often, or for very long.we;ve gotta get more time off, or you've gotta come down here!
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