so now what?

[mohka]

with age, it's been getting alot more difficult to meet quality men.  many have turned to online dating networks.  and there's nothing wrong with that.  with everyone's busy lives, it makes sense to join.

so for quite sometime, i've been debating joining one... but last night, i realized i can't... cuz as my friend was scrolling on lavalife to show

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[redman20]

UMmmmMpphMMmmpphMMMMmmm!!!!

(that's me NOT making a comment)

You can always go to THIS!!!!

[mohka]

i've heard some stories bout speed dating... why? are you gonna?

Well...let's see...

[redman20]

You have an x amount of minutes to try and impress someone with what you might think are your best characteristics while all the while trying not show any of the bad ones.

I think I'll pass.

Re: Well...let's see...

[mohka]

then why are you suggesting it for me? LOL!

[donkey88]

I know someone who did the speed-dating thing.... he said it was kinda weird

[mohka]

yea.. ive heard some stories about it.

[big_e_jay]

I know a guy who met someone at a speed dating thing and 6 months later married her

I think online dating and speed dating are just design to allow someone to meet people that they would otherwise never get a chance to meet

I don't think there's anything wrong with trying it and I'd never mock anyone for giving it a go but I will make fun of someone that tells his friends that he's not looking to get into a relationship but is secretly active on lavalife

[mohka]

thanks for your words. i understand where you're thoughts and i don't think there's anything wrong with it either.

it's just me... for myself. i'm not comfortable searching for "him" online i think. we do so many things online already... and now date online?

i dunno.

[mysteree]

I think if I was single I'd try the online dating thing. Its a great way to increase your circle. I think it was Charlotte in Sex & the City that said "network network network!" or something to that effect. Granted, you do know lots of ppl. You can block those ppl from seeing you. And just b/c they're on there already doesn't mean you can't go too.

I know at least 5 couples who've met their spouses on dating sites. I think its exciting!

[mohka]

i want to make sure i block them in time before they see me.

i don't know.. i'm still uncomfortable about this idea.

[redman20]

A part of me thinks it's just technology evolving the whole dating scene.

Another part thinks it's desperate.

two things:

[teenbeat16]

1)...that's it, you just know TOO MANY DAMN PEOPLE!
and more importantly,
2)...if you know all these guys on lavalife HOW COME YOU HAVEN'T HOOKED A SISTER UP!??!

LOL!

once you get over the discomfort of 'holy crap i'm looking for a guy ONLINE', it's actually not so bad...you have to admit it's asking a bit much to think that the right guy for us is somehow lurking amongst our current network of friends....

Re: two things:

[mysteree]

exactly! if that were true, then you'd have met him already. play the odds! or even if you do meet the "right guy" through a friend, this "right guy" comes with the added baggage of being a friend of a friend. the friend that introduced you might want to know details which you're not willing to share, what happens if it doesn't work out w/ the "right guy" in the long run...will the friend take offense? what if your friend decides that he/she's not comfortable with you dating his/her friend, etc. etc.

maybe using a site different than lavalife? how about match.com?

Re: two things:

[mohka]

yea, i've considered trying another site but i don't think it's that. i think i'd rather think "the one" is amongst our circle of friends.

hehe... youknowhatimsayin?

Re: two things:

[mysteree]

hehehe iknowhwatyouresayin hehehe

so get your ass in gear and ask him out already!! fred can't wait forever. lol j/k