Several old LJ friends have talked about coming back here to blog again. I keep thinking that it would be very good for me to do this again. But somehow it just seems easier to...not do that
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My father had his first heart attack somewhere in his 60s and had a triple bypass. I know how you're feeling about the risk of losing a dad - he's 80 now and the reality gets bigger can closer.
Regardless of any other support mechanisms you put in place, daddies aren't replaceable.
It is so nice to hear from you and WAY BETTER to hear that your dad is ok. I'm sure the fear is not gone, but thank God he is with you now. Thank God.
My parents are younger but my dad is not well, and I worry all the time. My grandmother who has always seemed totally invincible is going through chemo and her prognosis is not good. It is so hard to watch people we love get older.
I'm fifty three, and I miss my daddy too. He's not goine, but he's gone. In the nursing home, with Lewy Body Disease. You never stop needing them and loving them. They're your tribe. They're part of your soul. But you're not alone. I love you too.
Watching someone leave slowly has to be so hard. I don't know what to wish for, hope for...that they will leave me slowly so I can get used to the idea or quickly with all its shock and adjustments. Arg.
This is really scary :/ I am so aware, this year, of how all of our parents are aging...mine and Grant's are younger than yours, but they're also in much poorer health.
I'm so glad your Dad did need to go and get into some professional hands before the first one. Really really scary stuff...I love you so much.
I suppose the best case scenario is for him to live another 25 years in relative good health, while you use this situation as a catalyst to motivate positive change in your life? For now, just get through one day at a time <3
The doctors are so positive that this was a fixable thing and since they caught it and kept him alive through it, he will be okay for a long time now. Yeah. So weird.
I did a lot of thinking about what I would do if we did lose him. I am pretty sure I could not continue to live here. I barely keep up with this house and huge yard with him here to fix things and mow my lawn and stuff. I think I would actually HAVE to move somewhere less expensive to maintain as I cannot afford to hire the work done that he does. And I can't do it. Time is the main factor, but I also just plain don't have the strength in my arm I used to and it still hurts to lift and carry heavy things (heavy like a gallon of milk, ridiculous). I don't know if it will ever be normal again. So...yeah. Mom and I both talked about how we would most likely have to move if we lost him because our homes are both just too much. He does SO MUCH!!
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Good to see you back here.
My father had his first heart attack somewhere in his 60s and had a triple bypass. I know how you're feeling about the risk of losing a dad - he's 80 now and the reality gets bigger can closer.
Regardless of any other support mechanisms you put in place, daddies aren't replaceable.
((Dama))
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I know. He is NOT replaceable. At all.
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My parents are younger but my dad is not well, and I worry all the time. My grandmother who has always seemed totally invincible is going through chemo and her prognosis is not good. It is so hard to watch people we love get older.
Lots of love to you.
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This is really scary :/ I am so aware, this year, of how all of our parents are aging...mine and Grant's are younger than yours, but they're also in much poorer health.
I'm so glad your Dad did need to go and get into some professional hands before the first one. Really really scary stuff...I love you so much.
I suppose the best case scenario is for him to live another 25 years in relative good health, while you use this situation as a catalyst to motivate positive change in your life? For now, just get through one day at a time <3
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I did a lot of thinking about what I would do if we did lose him. I am pretty sure I could not continue to live here. I barely keep up with this house and huge yard with him here to fix things and mow my lawn and stuff. I think I would actually HAVE to move somewhere less expensive to maintain as I cannot afford to hire the work done that he does. And I can't do it. Time is the main factor, but I also just plain don't have the strength in my arm I used to and it still hurts to lift and carry heavy things (heavy like a gallon of milk, ridiculous). I don't know if it will ever be normal again. So...yeah. Mom and I both talked about how we would most likely have to move if we lost him because our homes are both just too much. He does SO MUCH!!
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