Comments | mommydaze: school/growing pains

mommydaze

school/growing pains

Mar 01, 2006 22:52

Well tomorrow is his first day. And while I really hate to make this all about me, I'm not doing well. I am having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that I am taking my precious child and dropping him off and entrusting his care to someone I haven't even met. He keeps asking me what he is going to do and how his day will go and I don' ( Read more... )

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kupi99 March 2 2006, 05:14:22 UTC

patrick will be FINE! he sounds ver excited, and most ready and happy to go, although a little anxious, and unxure! arent we all the first day? i'm the teacher, and I am! and i've even done it before. so he's a bit nervious, but will be great. even if he cries some, i think he will be fine. he sounds very happy to go, and all will be well.

i'm not a mom, and have never been through this, but i might have a small hint of how it feels, b/c it was v. hard for me to let go of my last class. but all is well now, they are great kids, doing great in first grade. and they were ready to, kindergarten had nothing more for them. so to with patrick, being at home only is finished for him, and soon he will love school.

and look at this way, now you can some special, you vivi, and new baby time ;).

ladybluestar March 2 2006, 13:44:23 UTC

*HUGS*

I sent Brandon to preschool last year, knowing that he needed more socialization and stimulation than I was able to provide. I guess I saw it differently as I always loved school, plus, this program was only two hours at a time, twice a week. This fall Brandon is going to kindergarten, which is another scary thing in and of itself. But he's been to the school many times (same place the preschool is) and desperately needs the academics.

I think the most important thing is having a positive attitude yourself. I really hope that this morning goes well.

mommydaze March 3 2006, 14:35:08 UTC

I suspect a lot of my separation anxiety/inability to adapt to school had a lot to do with my parent's divorce. I always felt incomplete because I was always separated from one of the most important people in my life (I was always crying for one of them). And always felt like I was desperately trying to catch up on love and quality time, rather than experiencing the comfort and security that kids are supposed to feel with their families. It was like there was this mental timer of how long I had with each of them. School was this lonely place that was keeping me from the already limited time I had with each parent.

Patrick's school is only 3 hours twice a week, so it wasn't really the length of separation, more the difficultly with all the changes that the separation represented. I have a hard time with change and letting go. And my hormones are certainly not helping with emotional control.

ladybluestar March 3 2006, 23:48:12 UTC

That would be a very understandable root of the problems.

The time frame would be a good transition in prep for eventually going to Kindergarten.

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kupi99 March 3 2006, 06:08:43 UTC

ditto to elisa. reread my comment, and realize that w/o voice tone, it could be read harshly and unsympthizing. i didnt mean that way. and patricks day sounded wonderful! :)

elisa and kupi mommydaze March 3 2006, 14:39:44 UTC

Ironically enough - my horoscope warned about the tendency for things like that to happen (mercury going into retrograde or something like that) so I was prepared :)

But I has able to pick out the sentiments and thank you. And really I was/am being an irrational mother and there isn't much to be done about that but survive it. At least until I can reconcile what I know intellectually with a barrage of emotions.

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