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Jun 27, 2003 18:32

I think I fucked up a bit with Joe. He called me last night, but I didn't feel like answering the phone. Caught him online today at 130pm and he asked if I wanted to come over tonight, said he'd call in 30mins, etc. I agreed, but felt that it was not really that long to spend catching up.. only a few hours. I don't know, really. I got cold feet. ( Read more... )

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vaysha June 27 2003, 10:45:54 UTC

Oh I can so relate to this:
*I usually choose one person and interact with them. When the circle stretches to accomodate a third party, it just puts me on edge. I can never relax unless I know them for a long time*.

unless I am in a rare mood but something arranged like this would really put me on edge.
can you not suggest it's just the two of you?

kickadee June 27 2003, 20:38:55 UTC

Yeah I relate too! Big time.

monkeyfunk June 29 2003, 03:57:05 UTC

I think I'll just go with the flow. His friend's place is small, so I doubt we'd spend much time there, so it's a case of whether his friend wants to tag along or not.

And this is conditional on Joe actually BEING in Brighton on Wednesday. He might still be at home with no friends.

Hope springs eternal, ha!

Re: vaysha June 29 2003, 11:20:35 UTC

:)
well good luck and have fun.

New people anney June 27 2003, 12:19:26 UTC

While maybe not on the same level as you, I hate meeting friends of friends too. I'm not sure if it's because I'm expected to immediately be friends with them because of our link and can't make a decision for myself, but in any case, I'm almost always uncomfortable.

It's a bad situation. The new friend can tell I'm uncomfortable, I think, and then thinks something bad about me. I can never find a way to make conversation with the new person, but I chat easily with my old friend. Thus, the new friend thinks I am standoffish and snobby. It does blow. But then, I don't like meeting new people.

Re: New people monkeyfunk June 29 2003, 04:00:53 UTC

That's it exactly.. you find it hard to converse and then when your mutual friend returns to the room, you naturally gravitate towards a more fluent dialogue and it makes you look dismissive and aloof. I'm sure the other person is also awkward on some level, but not in the same way. Like theyre thinking, "How come XXXX has Michael as a friend, he's so boring".. but then, that's probably more symptomatic of my social anxiety and paranoia.

I guess I'll just go with the flow and ride it out.