Comments | montecristo: And the silver splinters fly in the corner of your eye, shining in the setting sun

montecristo

And the silver splinters fly in the corner of your eye, shining in the setting sun

Jan 15, 2022 17:48

I was watching this stand-up comic on YouTube. She was finding humor in the struggle to confront her parents or at least have uncomfortable conversations with them. I read some interesting comments on the page, from others who were relating. One person wrote: "When your parents are so old they don't remember the damage they did." I replied with: " ( Read more... )

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can relate rick_day January 16 2022, 11:47:56 UTC

I went though this trip all last year when my wife gifted me a way to write and publish a life story. 52 chapters of childhood trauma from abuse and neglect just right there, staring me in the face. I had to have my sister confirm some of them, and she reminded me about more stories.

My bio father is long dead and long after I discovered his long kept secret identity. My mom is still alive with the man she tricked into marrying at 15 after being raped by my 42 year old father. He went on to rape more young women through his evangelical ministry. Even casual conversation about this will send her into shrieks of immaturity and shut down.

We haven't spoken since Trump shook hands with Kim. There was a reddit thread about these traumas, and plenty of shared stories. Shit no wonder boomers are mentally ill, they are perpetually seeking an impossible to reach life goals.

Re: can relate montecristo January 16 2022, 20:42:07 UTC

Yeah, that is rough. No answers for you. People bring life into the world and then abandon their children, metaphorically or literally. Do we really wonder where people get the feelings of existential loneliness? Children give their parents so much credit, admiration, loyalty, and invest their hopes in them, and as parents, we squander these things. It's crazy. Every parent was a child once. I hope that you and your sister are successful in helping one another find answers.

Self-awareness is difficult, and the search for it is lifelong, but the quest is not impossible and it really is the only game in town, whether we accept the challenges or run from the consequences of evading them.