I see a healthy relationship being one where two people live together and have fun together, but could be just as happy being by themselves.
that's not quite accurate. There's a difference -- it's one thing to be happy alone, but it's a completely different level of happiness with someone[s] you love. But then I lived on my own for a long time, and you haven't yet.
ew. I mean truly ew. But not completely ew because you were feeling good feeling great feeling great feeling good. its such a weird balance. When is it just two people living their lives separately or two people living their lives together? What is healthy? Probably whatever feels right. I can see your thoughts in your head in this entry. I wish I could hug you though.
Bravo, Mary! I think you're right; realising that you need time to explore what's out there will make for a lot more satisfaction in the long-term (perhaps for both of you?). I hope you guys can remain dear friends, because such things are crucial, but yeah - sounds like a step in the right direction. I know you were the one to suggest the engagement to begin with, but I applaud you for considering the issue carefully and for taking steps that require so much introspection and foresight.
i'm sorry to hear it. :\ although i'm happy you feel confident and satisfied with your decision i do feel a bit sad knowing khail will/has read this post. but after all, this is your journal and you're allowed to express yourself however you see fit. i do think this is probably the best decision for you both considering your feelings about it for a long time now. all i want is great happiness for the both of you and i'm sure you'll find it with or without each other. *hugs*.
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that's not quite accurate. There's a difference -- it's one thing to be happy alone, but it's a completely different level of happiness with someone[s] you love. But then I lived on my own for a long time, and you haven't yet.
*hugs*
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i wish i could hug you, too.
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How go the classes this semester? Interesting as ever, I hope?
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although i'm happy you feel confident and satisfied with your decision i do feel a bit sad knowing khail will/has read this post. but after all, this is your journal and you're allowed to express yourself however you see fit. i do think this is probably the best decision for you both considering your feelings about it for a long time now. all i want is great happiness for the both of you and i'm sure you'll find it with or without each other.
*hugs*.
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