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Jan 22, 2007 06:25

Alright.  Get a load of this:

I have become a focal point of conversation at parties amongst people I don't know, over issues I could care less about.  Also people that hate me ad nauseam have begun reading my journal/myspace blog and making it a topic of discussion at their socials.

How did I pull this off?  My last entry.  I don't want to explain ( Read more... )

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synthesis21 January 22 2007, 18:12:14 UTC
Have you ever caught yourself saying something you'd never tell the person, something that bothers you a lot, something that could potentially wreck your friendship if it isn't smoothed out, to other people rather than that person?

Yes. Recently I realized that one of my best friends was actually the main person that was sucking so much energy out of me he was driving me into depression. I was spending so much time fixing his problems that I wasn't taking any time to sort out my own. I haven't spoken to him in a couple weeks and I feel great. But I do care about him, and I don't want to hurt him by telling him he needs to stop being a whiny bitch. And I've told this to all our mutual friends, but not him yet. And it IS wrecking our friendship since I just haven't spoken to him.

Bah.

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mr_zip January 22 2007, 22:51:36 UTC
I'm thinking that unless certain friends of mine develop a backbone, the 'ships will just fall apart.

Surprise surprise though, talking to the source is more helpful than gossiping! Why then do people seem to prefer the latter?

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bottledfire January 23 2007, 01:49:29 UTC
Because people (myself included) are insecure wimps who would rather keep bad relationships than take the gamble of speaking directly -- and MAYBE fix the relationship, but MAYBE lose it forever... and not only lose the direct pleasure of the friendship, but also the status of it...

(Having few friends implies loserdom in modern day America, and I know several people who have zillions of friends, but probably wouldn't have any if they were honest -- opinion based off of how much gossip I hear from them --)

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synthesis21 January 23 2007, 19:16:41 UTC
Actually, this insecure wimp only has a few close friends and is fine with it. AND this insecure wimp knows what it would do to the other person involved to tell him this to his face.

Sorry, but I don't want to be the one who pushes him over the edge.

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bottledfire January 23 2007, 02:12:19 UTC
Usually when I say something about someone which I wouldn't say to their face, I'd be *so relieved* if I could just bring myself to do so -- but, in some cases, doing so would serve no purpose but making me feel better... and cause a lotta pain for others.

Actually, a lot of times, I DREAM about having the opportunity to let my honest opinions rule my mouth (you know who I'm talking about x_x).

And saying bad things about people is somewhat shitty, but we're all human, and it's proven than talking about things relieves the intensity of the feeling... and everyone needs to let off steam sometime. It's the whole frequency part that gets tricky, methinks. If you're always talking smack about someone but you call him your best friend, that's a teensy little problem ( ... )

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mr_zip January 23 2007, 02:15:25 UTC
I agree, frequency is a big part of it. I'm more inclined to not care if it happens once and a while, but people tend to make a habit of back talking rather than actually trying to work things out.

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setmeonfire January 23 2007, 22:14:35 UTC
I have a bad habit of spreading harmless "gossip" to friends who don't have thick hides. I say something to a person that someone else said, thinking they wouldn't care or find the joke and/or critisism funny or amusing, and then they don't and I accidentally start a gossip storm. Curse my thick hide for critisism.

Curse my friends and friends of friends who make mountains out of molehills.

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mr_zip January 24 2007, 01:15:45 UTC
aiight

they can get spun up all they want as far as I'm concerned

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oboe_hobo1204 January 24 2007, 02:35:17 UTC
I'm not gonna lie, I have definetly spoken about people behind there backs much more than I should have. I have as of late come to realize this and have done much to prevent the gossip that spews from my lips. I know people talk about me behind my back and sure it bugs me, but there isn't shit i can do about it. People talk, I learned that when I cheated on my girlfriend. Juicy tid-bits that can ruin peoples lives spread faster than wildfire. So I deal with it and roll right along.

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crinttae February 13 2007, 02:08:35 UTC
This is ironic to the extent that it's difficult to believe.

It seems like people don't meet up to most people's standards. Some people keep it to themselves, and get angrier and angrier. Some people tell the truth, and in doing so hurt whomever they tell. Wiser people whisper so it isn't heard by anyone who will be hurt by it, and then pretend that nobody is whispering about them. Really wise people lie to themselves completely, willfully loving everyone and everthing to keep from hating everyone and everything.
I think the difference between the first and the last is the difference between supervillains and superheroes.

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mr_zip February 13 2007, 02:23:37 UTC
well yeah if we were talking about archetypes and not human beings with multiple levels of love and hate

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crinttae February 13 2007, 19:26:53 UTC
Levels shmlevels, most human beings I know are about as complicated as Sims.

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mr_zip February 14 2007, 01:07:19 UTC
You got me there.

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