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mshepnj

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly - Fun With the Family

Dec 18, 2005 10:05

I went to the family get-together Christmas thingy at my Dad and Stepmom's yesterday. It was fun as always seeing them and my siblings, their spouses and my sister's kids, my step-siblings and their spouses ( Read more... )

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mshepnj December 18 2005, 19:27:41 UTC

You too, twin-o'-mine?

You know, I feel kind of feel guilty even complaining about him, because he's been through a lot and managed to overcome a lot. That being said, I know what he's capable of doing, and I know that when he doesn't want to do something, he'll make all kinds of excuses. He denies his condition is a problem when it suits him, then falls back on it - like a crutch when it suits him.

maquisleader December 18 2005, 19:22:08 UTC

I think there's a law now that not only do employees have to smoke outside, they have to be at least 50 feet from the door. We had someone complaining about the smokers grouping around the door when it was cold -- and it was annoying to those of us who don't smoke -- so they had to go out and paint this big red circle on the sidewalk to show the smokers where to stand.

But really, if he can work, then he should get off his butt.

mshepnj December 18 2005, 19:37:40 UTC

I don't know what the law is in California where he lives. In New Jersey the smokers have to go to a designated area, and at my compnay it's "smoke shacks" that are outside and not close to any of the doors.

That being said, I can't really do justice to his really lame excuses last night for why he can't work anywhere but home, and then for why he can't travel to the Philippines with his wife so she can visit with relatives there. If he doesn't want to do something he'll find an excuse no matter how lame or implausible. And yes, believe me, we all think he should get off his butt and get a real job, but the last time I said that my brother flew into a defensive rage. So we just kind of figure that if his wife can't get him to work, she's got to deal with the consequences.

But honestly, I'm just worried she's going to work herself to death.

canadiangirl_86 December 18 2005, 20:03:21 UTC

You're awesome, Mary, you know that? Seriously, reading that, I just lurrve you.

Sorry to hear about the clashing with your brother. Sounds like you have a lot of patience with him (despite the fact that he's a Republican, heh), and I think he's very lucky to have you for a sister.

As for your sister, maybe I'm out of line but I don't think being late on a couple birthday gifts is reason enough to be sent a scathing letter. :S I mean, they're just presents, and you're obviously a very busy woman. I think she should have been more understanding.

And the trust fund? Again, you're an amazingly good-hearted person.

mshepnj December 19 2005, 00:58:56 UTC

You're awesome, Mary, you know that? Seriously, reading that, I just lurrve you.
I lurrve you too, sweetie, but I feel bad that I can't let it go and that it bothers me so much. I know that he's lucky (given his condition) not to be totally incapacitated and I know how much he's capable of doing when he puts his mind to it. I know it's not always easy for him, but he could do a job that requires good organization and routine. I really think he just lacks the will. I want the best for my brother and his wife, and I just feel like he doesn't do as much as he could to make their lives a little easier. It's so frustrating and I'm really worried about ( ... )

angelbuffy0 December 18 2005, 21:40:24 UTC

Your sister is very selfish. The trust is a gift not a right ( ... )

mshepnj December 19 2005, 01:19:27 UTC

My dad refused to join them. He did not want anything and he felt the wife would need every penny. Well he later found out his siblings forged his name on the papers. They are nothing but a bunch of greedy asses.

Oh and his sister Donna takes the cake. After the death of their father (the one who actually raised them) she wanted to dispute the will. He left 50% to Frank(who did a lot for him), 25% to Donna, 15% to Myrna, and 10% to my dad. As in my dad did not need anything and had not even lived around his parents after he was 18.
That is worse, and I'm sorry for your Dad because he *was* doing the right thing and got sucked in ( ... )

lynner_k December 19 2005, 12:22:26 UTC

God love ya sweetie..*hugs* I guess everyone has their little family glitches..

I've never had any experience with the money sitch...My husband's grandmother died a few years ago...His mother's portion (his Mom died about 20 years ago) was to be distributed to the kids. Hubby felt that it should go to his Uncle who took care of everything (She had Altzheimers')

But...his siblings had other ideas...and you know how the rest goes...*shudder*

But yes, I think you're right...Money can be the root of evil..

Hope the rest of your Holiday goes well !

Have a great day...

mshepnj December 20 2005, 01:13:45 UTC

God love ya sweetie..*hugs* I guess everyone has their little family glitches...

You too, sweetie! And absolutely. I've been talking this over with my husband and he agrees with my assessment about the money discussions. If my sister brings it up again, I will probably tell her to forget it. The whole thing just feels...sleazy.

But money makes people behave in uncharacteristically bad ways.