My car is developing new fun issues and sounds at a rapid rate. It's time to start looking.  I wanted to wait but I also am afraid if I wait too long I'm going to to need ANOTHER big repair and at this point it's now costing more to keep this car running than it will to make payments on a more reliable car.  Or I'll be stranded and have to make a ( Read more... )

A year ago I made a move to switch jobs and careers to work from home full time.  I found out I'd been hired with three weeks to set up a home work space, quit the job I'd had for over a decade, and no idea of what I was doing because it was a brand new position in a rapidly growing company.  It was a lot of risk for a person with a complicated ( Read more... )

After the minor and ridiculous dramaaaaa of yesterday morning, the friend group discussed where we failed at planning a group outing and everyone laughed and apologized and the venue we ended up at was very forgiving and it turned into a lovely outing, as it was always destined to be.  But there was one more drama moment when the person who delayed ( Read more... )

You know The Worry Zone?  Where you have a situation in life that's BIG and so your world shrinks so all you can do is focus on that worry, maybe one or two distractions, and nothing else?  You bounce between exhausted and sad and too hyper with anxiety to sit still and it's just not great.  Well, I'm there with my aging cat with a few health ( Read more... )

Over the last year I used my stimmy checks and my increased salary at the new job to put lots of work into home repairs that had been put off for a long time, vet bills, car repairs, and buying my parents cell phones (reasonably priced ones, but even a cheap phone is pricey!).  I did a little spending on things like clothing, but by and large my ( Read more... )

Yesterday I posted about metaphorical speed bumps and today I encountered literal speed bumps in the parking lot at the hospital where I get my bloodwork.  Oh I laughed when I saw that, I was like "am I psychic?" They're new, not quite bolted down correctly, and oddly placed.  So I laughed and just drove around them, cackling the whole time.  Then ( Read more... )

Sometimes things stack up and create worries and I know if I could just get past them that I'd feel 10 pounds lighter.  But because the things are so emotional/annoying/require multiple steps/require big decisions to get through it's easy to put them off. Then you do the things and you think "why did I drag my feet on this?"  And this repeats every ( Read more... )

CW/TW - death, depression

Thursday was a pretty stressful day.  I was dealing with some pet stress and my emotions were at a high, so to distract myself I was doom scrolling on social media when I got a message from a friend who wanted to send me update about his old lawyer boss - a shady local character who seemed to rip off many people with few ( Read more... )

It's so humid the last few days that even though the temperature might TECHNICALLY only be in the high 70s/low 80s it feels so much hotter.  I hate this weather.  I start to sweat and it never evaporates.  I can't walk the dogs outside because it's not great for any of us.  I have to run the AC colder than I want to because otherwise it's so gross ( Read more... )

Have you ever said something, immediately realized that it came out as slightly off or badly, and then stressed about it for days?  Yeah, that.  Turns out a lot of my friends are going through new feelings of social anxiety as well, as we interact in person with people and re-learn things like small talk and body language.  I'm telling myself " ( Read more... )