It's her Party and she can cry if she wants to...

[msparker16]

It’s Valentine’s night and Cousin J and Future Cousin-in-law are sleeping apart…by choice. And why, would this normally loving couple be separated on this most romantic of nights? Well because they’re planning a wedding and planning a wedding tears a family (and a couple) into little tiny bits and pieces, chews those pieces up into a thin mush

Comments

[that_girl2]

Ah, Ms. Parker...I can completely relate. Head, my beloved sister, and Dr. Jones will be getting married in August and what was going to be a small, simple, elegant ceremony is on its way to becoming a massive, traditional, blue-blood bash. *ugh* While Head and Dr. Jones are not yet sleeping apart, I think that is because Head is a master negotiator and shmoozer. In other words, she's damn good at keeping everyone happy, even if she isn't. I'm sure the day will be a magical one, but as I watch the planning stages unfold before my eyes, I become more and more convinced that my own wedding will be tiny...miniscule...hell, if I could elope I would!

Give a hug to Cousin J for me...she might not know me, but let her know that someone out there is sending her positive, healthy, stress-free energy!

It's the party of the person footing the bill, and they'll invite you if they want to...

[mrbenchly7]

Parker,

Somebody should send the E's Emily Post's book of wedding etiquette. Cousin J is right. Whoever is paying for a wedding is the one inviting the guests. Cousin J's invitation is the traditional and accepted version. The only technically correct compromise would be to say "Mr. and Mrs. Parents of Cousin J invite you to attend the wedding of Cousin J and FCIL-J, son of Mr. and Mrs. Parents of FCIL-J."

But that is besides the point. The problem is that even if Cousin J was wrong, the E's should never have said something. This day belongs to Cousin J and FCIL-J. Shame on anyone who forgets that!

Benchly

[shane27]

I agree with Benchly. This is ridiculous. I got married once, and we didn't let anyone tell us what to do. I'm digressing.

At any rate, Cousin J is in the right, the parents of fiance seem to be difficult, and I wish they could have some kind of spiritual awakening.

This is not their day!!!

[beauty_bandit]

I never thought I would be looking at "wedding invitation etiquette," but this posting sent me on a hunt - and it seems that benchly and the bride's family are correct in their wording on the invites if the wedding is paid by the bride's family and it is written in traditional style.

I couldn't imagine the difficulty negotiating so many egos, and it's sad to see it taking its toll in their relationship... no ceremony is worth breaking up over, hopefully they are able to see that in the end.

Or, if you ask me, they could call the whole thing off and decide to postpone their wedding indefinitely until "all" americans have the right to marry. That's just my opinion.

[mrbenchly7]

Any update on the Great Wedding Invitation Debate of 2006?

[msparker16]

Despite everyone's support, agreement and etiquette advice, there will be changes made to the invitations. It will be written as you Benchly, had mentioned in your post...which is a compromise that is appropriate but it's still annoying that it had to be done at all.