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[muibien]

ed and i are going in for a physical and blood test on saturday. can i tell you how much i'm freaken out! its like my mind is running on overtime trying to think back to all the guys i was sexually active with prior to meeting ed and vise versa. i can't help but think "what if?" ...
it started off as, "we should do this before we're married so we

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[1ragincajun]

don't worry ... it was in the past ... whatever happens.

[muibien]

dont worry..??? i can't stop worrying... *girls*
i keep thinking a mistake i made way back or a mistake an ex might have made might now cost me my life....

you know, now that i'm older and ready to settle down with one man, i WISH i would have kept my virginity.

[1ragincajun]

... as long as you had fun .... (just kidding)
you're gonna be fine.

[muibien]

fun at a price this high is no fun... ;(

didn't they teach you in church

[ernesto5]

that's Satan's realm down there! >D

Re: didn't they teach you in church

[burningblue]

No, it all depends on one's responsibility )or lack thereof). Case in point: we raise our granddaughter because her Mom was sexually irresponsible, brought her into the world, then walked out on her.

BTW, The Church reaches sexual responsibilty, which seems to be abhorrent to many in our "me first" culture.

Re: didn't they teach you in church

[muibien]

churches SHOULD teach sexual responsibility but with most churches now a days i find they just avoid the topic all together. a sad reality. and you're right, it all depends ... sex is as complicated as one makes it. if only i knew then what i know now, how different my story would have been. i guess in all fairness, at least i know now and can see my faults. how else would i have been able to ask for forgiveness ... even through our shame and our mistakes He finds a purpose. for that alone i am thankful.

Re: didn't they teach you in church

[muibien]

i know... im bad :(

You two ROCK!

[burningblue]

Hey, the important thing is that you guys woke up and that you both know better now.

I applaud the common sense that both of you are showing. I'm 44, and I'm amazed at how many people my age don't want to see the wreckage of their past, as if to say "How dare you say that ANYTHING I did was wrong???" LOL

God bless both of you!

Re: You two ROCK!

[muibien]

we both know and we've talked about it but what's in the past is in the past.

[channy_boy]

but if you stayed a virgin you wouldn't have gathered all that useful stuff you know now and maybe the sex wouldn't be as good as it is now.

[thesillygirlie]

i second that! :)

[muibien]

i think sex is learning process. no one is good at sex to start off...well unless you've been watching a lot of porn! LoL but in all fairness, i would have wanted to learned and experienced everything i've learned with ed and no one else. that's just me.

[channy_boy]

any thirds, or me and Sillygirl gonna be the only 2 High fiving??

[sexyporky]

i think that this day and age, it's rare for a couple to both save their virginity for each other.

personally, i think that sex with the one you love is special, and being monogamous is a sign of respect and committment to the other

however, what if you were saving your virginity for someone, and you end up having bad sexual chemistry? and what if you never know if you could have had better chemistry with someone else?

for myself, sexual chemistry is an important part of a relationship. if it isn't there, than a big part of the relationship is missing

- 2 cents

[muibien]

i agree. i think physical chemistry is exteremly important, for me at least it is so i'm with you on that sense however i also believe that great sex can be worked on or even taught with time. i just wish i had that ... the first time with someone being my last. i always wanted that. i actually gave up my virginity to my very first serious bf, who was also my ex - fiancee. if i knew we wouldn't have ended up together, i dont think i would have given it up. just something i regret.