Comments | mystiqalwolf: A fear coming to the forefront

mystiqalwolf

A fear coming to the forefront

Jan 06, 2008 11:36

As I believe everyone knows Brian has come back into our lives. He was staying with us till Christmas. He has a new girlfriend and she lives in Orlando and seems to be a real nice person. He was doing visits every couple weeks from Necro to Christmas time and a couple of those times the kids were welcomed along. Brian asked for our son to join him ( Read more... )

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rathess January 6 2008, 19:22:10 UTC

Good luck. For what it is worth, I agree entirely with you on this. First question I would suggest you ask Brian is if the idea was his or your son's...

adelinfdm January 6 2008, 22:41:37 UTC

I think you're completely right. Hugs and lots of support from this quarter. Sometimes kids don't know what's best for them and we just have to hope that one day they understand our reasons even if they don't understand them now. I'd say you should work it out with Brian and make him be there to support you in the decision when you tell your son.

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How old mystiqalwolf January 6 2008, 23:47:45 UTC

He is 13 and means the world to me. I cant imagine my house without him in it.

Thank you mystiqalwolf January 6 2008, 23:51:40 UTC

Thank you everyone for your support. Right now the issue will be revisited in June. Apparently Damien brought it up. But for now Brian understands trust has to be built and Tjareth and I have worked hard to find ways to keep me a stay at home mom so I can help get him headed in the right direction at school which is painful work and to help keep Stacie on the right track. I'm not ready to give my job of mom up and I don't want to be a parttime mom.

Re: Thank you rathess January 7 2008, 00:46:53 UTC

That's what friends are for, Mystiqalwolf. Sounds like a summer visit might be a good compromise you could suggest to D... (If you don't mind a suggestion from my quarter)

nnylrac January 7 2008, 18:25:23 UTC

*hugs* coming into this a bit late but know I'm thinking of you, sis.
From a slightly removed standpoint, your son being with you has been the best thing for him. A positive change in his demeanor and behavior being the most marked example of that. And I ditto the part about kids not being able to understand what's best for them. Someday he will be very, very grateful for the stability and love that you and tjareth have given him. I'm not suggesting his dad doesn't love him, it's just too soon to tell if he can provide the stable and constant source of that love that kids need above all other things.