Feminist link dump.
Because I need to close tabs, and because I will be saying stuff soon that pertains to the subject, have some links. I got many of them from sihaya09 and she got them originally from coffeeandink, so thanks to both.
From cereta comes On Rape and Men. I really can't sum this one up. It's very good.
In a spinoff post, rachelmanija talks about things a lot of men seem to think about rape. Really good and difficult to read comments here and here, talking about what reporting a rape really involves, and why the argument that women will ever so readily bring legal action against a man for a rape that never happened is basically really fucking offensive bullshit.
And nestra makes a really amazing post here, about how saying you don't know any rape victims is not a very smart thing to say. (And in my own words, I have to say, when I hear someone say this, I cringe. Utterances like that do not exactly make people feel like they can trust you with such information.)
Here is a really good post by khalinche about harassment on the street and what that is like to live with every fucking day, and there is a good thread headed by cos here about the different ways in which men and women perceive such interactions, and why.
I would also like to point out that cos does just about the finest job I have ever seen of saying "That is not what my experience is like," and instead of using that to derail or dismiss, uses that to spark useful discussion about the subject at hand: how women perceive harassment, and why. Commenters take note: this is how it is done. Don't change the fucking subject.
These are all varying degrees of hard to read, or sad, or depressing. But I think that they need to be heard. There is too much silence about this stuff. Even I hesitate posting about it because I get sick of seeing the same stupid shit in comments. I'll try to be less cowardly about that from now on.
I am leaving comments unscreened. That said, this journal is not the place for derailing, or sniping. I'm evaluating where I stand on debate vs. creating a friendly space. So be excellent to each other.
From cereta comes On Rape and Men. I really can't sum this one up. It's very good.
In a spinoff post, rachelmanija talks about things a lot of men seem to think about rape. Really good and difficult to read comments here and here, talking about what reporting a rape really involves, and why the argument that women will ever so readily bring legal action against a man for a rape that never happened is basically really fucking offensive bullshit.
And nestra makes a really amazing post here, about how saying you don't know any rape victims is not a very smart thing to say. (And in my own words, I have to say, when I hear someone say this, I cringe. Utterances like that do not exactly make people feel like they can trust you with such information.)
Here is a really good post by khalinche about harassment on the street and what that is like to live with every fucking day, and there is a good thread headed by cos here about the different ways in which men and women perceive such interactions, and why.
I would also like to point out that cos does just about the finest job I have ever seen of saying "That is not what my experience is like," and instead of using that to derail or dismiss, uses that to spark useful discussion about the subject at hand: how women perceive harassment, and why. Commenters take note: this is how it is done. Don't change the fucking subject.
These are all varying degrees of hard to read, or sad, or depressing. But I think that they need to be heard. There is too much silence about this stuff. Even I hesitate posting about it because I get sick of seeing the same stupid shit in comments. I'll try to be less cowardly about that from now on.
I am leaving comments unscreened. That said, this journal is not the place for derailing, or sniping. I'm evaluating where I stand on debate vs. creating a friendly space. So be excellent to each other.