Rating Community

[narniarose]

I had joined a group on here called "non-ugly fats." I thought they were one of those groups trying to teach people to revise their idea of beauty. They have an "application" process where you post some pics. I received all NOs and wrote to them to ask what's the deal. They explained to me that they are "a rating community" and I wrote back the

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[luscious_purple]

Ya know, I've been on Teh Intarnet probably before some of those folks were born. In five years on LJ, I've never bothered to join a rating community, even though I certainly know they exist. I'm not even going to dignify that group by going over there and reading their snark. Life is too short (and I've got tons of stuff to do!).

I certainly hope you find a more welcoming community. Like right here on your friends' list!

[narniarose]

Thanks! Yeah, I guess I'll have to lock the post I made on there before all their attacks started. I'm getting bombarded with their mean-spiritedness on my email.

[luscious_purple]

Or, since it's your post to start with, can't you just delete it? I did that once when I posted something to a community and then started regretting it. (That community had nothing to do with ratings; I was in just a very ugly mood when I wrote the post in the first place.)

All that ugliness and negativity gone with one click -- POOF!

[narniarose]

I tried, but they said since I "unjoined" I can not delete it now. That's OK with me. I'm proud of what I said. But I wish they'd just get over themselves and shutup already.

[lalathemonk]

I'm so sorry that you had to experience that group of people. I tried to join about 1 1/2 years ago and I received some of the worst comments ever. I never knew a person was beautiful because of where they live or what music they listen to. They are the most pathetic group of people...obviously insecure with themselves and the lives they live. It saddens me that people feel as if they need to judge others. I read some of the comments they left regarding what you said and it made me so mad. They KNOW you're right that's why they are so cruel. Mommy and Daddy didn't teach them courtesy and kindness.

Real beauty lies within. I think that's something the world needs to remember.

Take Care,
Laura

[narniarose]

Thank you, sweetheart! What a lovely thing to say. And I'm sorry that you had to endure any hurtful comments. You are truly beautiful, both inside and out, and an asset to your generation. Thanks again for your response. You're one of the reasons I know our world has hope!

[narniarose]

Oh, thank you so much. That's a lovely thing to say and clearly you are a lovely person as well. I agree - I think the Internet is a wonderful thing, but too often it allows people's bad side to come out because I guess they feel "safe" doing that. It's a shame it's not the other way around. I so appreciate your feedback and would like to add you to my friends if you don't mind. One can never have too many positive friends!

[sister_swallow]

Ok! I don't use this journal much, but I might start posting entries soon. I'll add you. :)

[chanharrison]

I made the same mistake you did a few years ago.. and put my picture up there... never have I seen people so low in self esteem that they feel the need to put down others to feel good.. i could give a good godamn whether people are chubby what matters is how you treat people.. and they were caddy.. and just down right mean.. saying things like i look retarded or have down syndrome.. i have no used for that community or anybody in it.. so feel good you did not get accepted.. you might have lost me as a friend.. or to quote the great groucho marx.. i never wanna be a member of a club that would have me as a memeber..

smiles.. good luck and i am sorry these awful people were even a small part of your life..

hugs

chan

ps.. i know i do not comment on much and i am sorry... but had to step up to the plate on this one..

smiles..

[narniarose]

Thank you, Chan. Even in this situation, I'm the kind of person who always second-guesses myself. I was concerned that I HAD said something wrong to them or somehow offended THEM. I can't help it - I have an extremely OVERACTIVE empathy gene. I still worry about them because they have to be hurting inside to be so full of bitterness. Oh, well. Believe it or not, they are still sending me mean comments. I'll just pray for them and send good karma back - and I really hope they do find happiness.

[onceupon]

You might want to look into fatshionista - there is still plenty of constructive criticism and a contingent that wants to be rude but it's actually a very supportive and fantastic environment.

[narniarose]

Thank you - I'll check it out!