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For Jen, a poem
For Jen-Who said “Write me a poem ( Read more... ) -
BDSM. wait, I said I liked that?
We have been texting non stop, being silly and sexy. She makes me snort with laughter, and dizzy with desire. She reminds me to take care of my primary relationship. She is good for me. It is new and wonderful and at the same time I want to say slow down, put the brakes on we are going too fast. And then, not so much. We fit. Gods know how but ( Read more... ) -
Date: behaving differently than with friends
I had a great time. It was serious and silly and sexy and not life altering and at the same time it was a bit ( Read more... ) -
Date
I'm meeting someone for sushi Friday night. We have been texting all this week. A lot. I'm nervous. And excited. We have hit some deep areas of conversation. And there are expectations on both sides. She wants me to define my limits and kinks and triggers. And this feels very hard because no one has asked me these things up front before. But also ( Read more... ) -
Women and soft being deceptive
Women are softer than men. Physically they tend to be softer and their emotions are finer honed for nuance. I love wordsmith women ( Read more... ) -
Human damnit, and limits suck
Last Friday I did a tone class with barbells and hand weights. I thought I did okay, but I hurt the next day. And then it continued to kick my butt. I was sore until Sunday! Not as bad as the hip hop class I did with Ashley that time lol, but bad. Then I had an allergy related breathing issue and pulled my right leg muscles trying to work through ( Read more... ) -
Running and running resources
Some of you may know that I am training for a 10K race this summer. I have recently lost a good amount of weight, and am continuing in that weight loss partly to become a better runner. To answer the immediate question, yes I do believe that runners are crazy. And yes, I guess that makes me crazy along with them. But it is a good crazy, it is a ( Read more... ) -
Little boxes, little boxes all made out of ticky tacky...
I thought that the LGBTIQA... was more open to the Poly and the Bi sections of the spectrum than they apparently are. Sigh. I thought I had done some hard thinking about how my situation could be resolved or at least intelligently and creatively managed ( Read more... ) -
managed and formal relationship spaces and 1000's of questions
Can a relationship be a constructed as a formalized agreement that is artificial, but meets needs for partners where jealousy and possessive feelings can be managed? Say for instance a particular arrangement where a partner is free to explore a limited range of outside behaviors but has a strict limit on emotional involvement or has agreed to ( Read more... )