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[ndkid]

On the T last night, there was this woman. I'm almost certain she was younger than me. She reminded me a great deal of saxchicbeth, only more buxom. She was obviously tired, so I showed her a seat when it opened up. She had a cute green ipod sock for her cell phone. I talked to her a little bit. She had a sort of energy to her even when she was that tired,

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[damarie]

Two words: business cards. It makes giving someone else your number/email a lot less sketchy. And most people either have them to give away or understand the value of social networking, and are happy to give equivalent contact info to someone who seems interested.

Plus, you really don't look *that* sketchy...

[ndkid]

Ugh. I *hate* business cards. I feel like they're in the "I want to sell you something" range, which I find somewhat predatory, especially from strangers. Whenever I see businesspeople going around a table exchanging cards, I just remember American Psycho.

I'd have to make an anti-business card. I'd want it to say "I don't sell people shit" in large words on one side.

[damarie]

You could just use the line usually allocated for your profession to say "All-Around Interesting Person." (And then have a unique and entertaining logo.) Does it help to know that business cards are descended from calling cards, which served a purely social function?

(I have not seen American Psycho.)

[kdsorceress]

You've clearly never seen one of my calling cards. (Which I will occasionally call business cards)

I have an old deck of cards; I write entertaining quotes on the back, and my name, handle, e-mail, and livejournal on the face. They're specifically for cons, but if I ever get efficient, I'll start carrying two or three spare in my wallet.

They're pretty much for when I meet interesting people, who I'd like to get to know better. Try something like it?

~Sor

[charolastra00]

If some guy started talking to me on the T, I'd assume he was a) a tourist b) crazy or c) trying to get in my pants. I haven't been wrong yet. :P So you could work the b or c angle.

But seriously, if a similar situation comes up, why not just ask for her number? The worst she can say is that she lost her phone, and then at least you tried.

Stalking, even mini-stalking, is an no go though. Ask me about the time that a server at my grandfather's country club tracked me down on Myspace.. Creepy.

[ndkid]

Considering that you seem to seek out t3h s3x, maybe you just have a big sign on your head that says "fuck me, please". :-P

In my case, I am often ambivalent, at best, about getting into someone's pants. It might be nice. It's no biggie if I don't. But, sure, I might be crazy for not being a horndog.

*sigh*
I wish some server would track me down. Even an ugly one. It'd be nice. You chicks got it good. ;-)

[damarie]

Hahaha! I should bribe the girl at Chipotle to cyberstalk you!

[ndkid]

Heh. She already said she had a boyfriend (from Jamaica), so you might have to bribe him to go along with it. ;-)

[liritsvoice]

I've run into lots of guys that I've wanted to grow a relationship with but, similar to your situation, we only had a few minutes together and nothing came of it.

It never hurts to offer your phone number or email, if you want to. It's non-threatening and not as potentially creepy as asking her for her number. Chances are she felt the same vibe you did and might have been interested in continuing the communication. Maybe you'll run into her again. ;-)

[wyrdone]

Find one of those outfits that will let you print 100 or so free business cards where you can put your own artwork on the front, make it say whatever you want and put safe contact info on there (E-mail, IM, maybe cellphone)

Good for cons and the random stalker guy run-ins.

[chainkill]

This problem plagues us all. One night, I decided to be extra bold (I had been planning to go out drinking with my roommate, but instead I just rode the T being bold), and I got two phone numbers, an e-mail address, and a business card. It was pretty cool. None of these went anywhere, but none of them was overly weirded out by being asked.