Friends

[niamani2]

Why is it that some people have a tendency to believe they know what's best for someone they've just met. For instance, I've been wanting to rebuild a family of friends who are nurturing, accepting, nonjudgmental and supportive since I moved to LA. I thought I may have finally found her. Except that immediately she felt a need to fix me. She thinks

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[aeroplanic]

One of the other ladies on my friends list today has been totally pissed about how she's a little overweight, yet perfectly healthy and ok with her weight, yet other people seem to want to "help" her lose weight or put things that happen in her life (she sprained a knee recently) down to her weight, etc. rather than a random accident. Really people need to just chill the fuck out and realize that other people are completely capable of deciding what they will and won't do with their lives and that if someone wants their advice they'll ask for it. Actually, I'd like to see what person's so goddamn perfect they feel the need to randomly bring up someone else's "shortcomings". Grrrr!

[niamani2]

Hi, Kater... Thanks for the uplifting comments. I've been so down in the dumps lately that I hadn't logged on to see any responses. I just wish so-called "well meaning" friends would just "live and let live". I've spent a lifetime trying to live up to everyone else's expectations and failed miserably. I just really want to be left the hell alone. If they can't accept me as I am then they're free to move on. On the other hand, I've got to free myself of this need to seek so much from others that I refuse to give to myself. Tragically, I'm finding it terribly hard to do. But I'm still gonna work at it. It's the only thing to do if I want to be healthy, sane, and happy.

I love your spirit and your good humor. Thanks again and take care.