Comments | nikol1121: My new years resolution

nikol1121

My new years resolution

Jan 06, 2006 20:41

My New Years resolution was to learn how to be mean. I feel like I'm too nice, that I let people walk all over me. The truth is, I dont think thats really the problem. What I really need to do this year is to make better friends. Maybe if I wasn't friends with assholes I wouldn't have this problem. I guess I bring it upon myself but I feel ( Read more... )

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lemoine January 7 2006, 13:35:15 UTC

I have been struggling with this myself. I don't know if you're referring to me (I hope not), but if you are, I want you to know that I do consider you my friend (my close friend) and I have never (knowingly) taken advantage of you.

Yesterday I talked to Matt about some things that were bothering me, concerning basically you, Jenna, and Keary. I still haven't decided whether or not to flat out confront you all, but I think you and I might share the same doubts. Let me know if you want to talk about it, cause if it's me you are having a problem with, communication is better than avoiding confrontation ... and I guess I could also tell you what has been bothering me.

kearonious January 7 2006, 20:07:53 UTC

communication is key and calling people flat out liars whe you don't know the situation is somewhat worse. I feel/know you are referring to me and i don't know what you have that I have taken advantage of not given back to you. i can't count on my fingers the number of times you've been in my room drinking even when i should have had freshmen in here. i can remember a lot of other times like that. and if you are letting last nights little encounter get in the way of that i am sorry. you are a big girl with a mouth and i mean coleman doesnt generally just come in the rom to sit and i had my coat on so i have to say if you didnt realize we were leaving that is kinda hard to believe. but if you feel that you don't want to be my friend for these reasons so be it b/c i don't feel like defending myself everytime. The reason i often am standoffish and leave the room with you is b/c you are very argumentative and confrontational sometimes. I am too and we would just get into a big debate that no one else needs to suffer through. And if you ( ... )

nikol1121 January 7 2006, 23:24:52 UTC

OK...Yea there are some serious communications issues here. This article was definately far from being all about you, and I'm sorry that you interpreted it that way. The car comment definately wasn't you and I do take more than my fair share of your alcohol..when have I given you any alcohol?? (tho I probably should someday to pay you back)..that comment wasnt about anyone who probably reads this and was about someone you dont even know ( ... )

nikol1121 January 7 2006, 23:25:25 UTC

PS...about the whole drinking alcohol and not talking in Jeffs room....Ive been in there 3times this year...Once, I was paranoid because I was supposed to be babysitting freshman the night before our first meet and had decided to hang with you guys in therep for a while...I was only drinking orange juice that night and I was nervous about the race and finding the freshmen at Fallout....so yea...I probably wasnt the most social person while you were playing drinking games and I was staying sober...Im sorry about that... and Im sorry if it looked like something different ( ... )

kearonious January 7 2006, 23:39:57 UTC

thanks for the explanation. thanks for the explanation and clarification. I think we all need to communicate better. but don't feel that because randomly by chance usually me and jenna hang out a lot you aren't welcome. noted jenna is my best friend but i don't go out of my way intentionally not to invite people. stuff just unexpectedly happens most nights. you becky and anyone else are welcome. as far becoming someone i don't pick up for i doubt it. when i didn't pick up for galina was b/c i knew i would have gotten into a long discussion that i wasn't up for. sorry if was snide in the response i was just taken aback. anyway talk to you laters.
-k

lemoine January 8 2006, 04:03:37 UTC

It's cool that you and Jenna are best friends. Obviously, neither I nor Nicole would expect that to change, nor want that. I guess I just sometimes feel sick of having to ask you & Jenna what's going on (and if I can come to), and from what I've gathered from this convo, I think Nicole feels the same way. I know you probably try your best to invite us to things, and I sincerely appreciate that. So, I'm not saying this to try to make you feel bad or upset or anything ... I just want you to understand where I'm coming from. When you like someone and enjoy hanging out with them (as you do with Jenna), the typical reaction is to call them up or somehow invite them to hang out. I often feel like I'm usually the one calling you or Jenna to find out what plans you already have. And it just makes me feel like I enjoy hanging out with you more than you enjoy hanging out with me. Sometimes I feel like if I didn't talk to you guys for a couple weeks, you wouldn't really notice ( ... )

kearonious January 8 2006, 13:34:02 UTC

ok this may sound mean but when you go back and read this i hope you realize the selfish undertones you have all throughout. in a friendship you are not owed anything the other person save their friendship. do you really think i call up jenna everytime she is over here. well, no i don't if you were wondering. the gifts i gave them because they actually told me when their birthdays are. if you know me, you know that i have the memory of oh say that damn fish in finding nemo. I never asked you for a gift either and jenna did not get me a christmas present nor did nicole for that matter and they did not get gifts from me for the reason i told you that i did not have the money. to be quite honest with you, there is still a silver picture frame sitting in my room that matches theirs that i planned to give to you so that all of you had one alike. the only reason i haven't put a picture in it for you is because my printer doesn't print right anymore since i made those actually. ok i am not sure how you feel like a tag along. you see me ( ... )